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writes:HelloI'm 33, female and single!Have had so many ups and downs in relationships - tend to always attract the "bad boys".....Anyway, have just met a nice man via online dating....and he ticks so many boxes in terms of what I want in a relationship. [there does appear to be hope after, all!]However, we have only had one date (met on Monday of this week), but there was a strong attraction, and we ended up kissing a lot! :-)And he is texting me every day - plus we have a second date planned for this Friday.All seems too good to be true. My only concern is that he just left a phone message on my mobile saying that he was so excited to see me, and that he had never had this before (meaning the strong attraction at first sight, I imagine.....).I'm starting to worry he is tooooooooo keen, too soon!! Is there such a thing?Or am I being an idiot as I'm only used to men who are closed off to showing their emotion?I do like him, but can feel myself panicking already about the thought of him becoming clingy...For your info, he is 34 and divorced (no kids) - came out of a 16 yr relationship last year (was married for 4 yrs, although he tells me the relationship was "dead" for 2 yrs before they divorced).I don't want to mess this up as he seems a great, genuine guy. Maybe it's me that has the problem in accepting someone that is good for me?Help please!!X
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): My gosh i know what u mean
i met someone in a bar the other night, and we just hit it off! ended up kissing, because of strong attraction, and he was like i really want to get to know you. So we have arranged a date for sunday ( a week later)..and we have been tecting each other and stuff, but from his initiation. I am scared that he is too into me, but then again u have to think y not?? If this guy likes you, whats wrong with it? Why do us women have to be so used to guys playing hard to get and being arrogant?? Who knows?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (22 February 2007):
 You said yourself, in the past you always seem to attract the "bad guys" so things seem to be looking up here. You have obviously been giving off vibes (kissing comes to mind) that you like him a lot too. To me he's just comfortable with you and can express his thoughts better than some men. I wouldn't worry about this too much. Go out with him and enjoy your date. Let him know that you think things have taken off really quickly and you're waiting to see the bubble burst at any moment. Let him know you want to take it slowly and just get to know him better, you still like him a lot but just to calm things down a little.
I'm sure he'll totally understand and if he really does like you then he'll respect how you feel. You seem to have had bad luck in the past with men, don't throw this one out before you've had the chance to really get to know him. He seems genuine and caring.
Eve
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 He was in a relationship since he was 18 so he probably misses having someone at his side. If you have concerns about too much too soon, tell him. Otherwise, he'll probably keep on charging.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): hay hun, i do understand what ur saying but you can neva know untill you give him a chance as u say u've been up and down in relation ships... ull neva know till u give him a try!
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reader, Kali-Mah +, writes (22 February 2007):
I see no reason to not give him a fair chance. Let him be 'keen' if hhat is what he is, no harm unless he makes you feel uncomfortable, which if that is the case, you may try discussing it with him. And, as far as being afraid, its normal. He's prolly just as scared. Give it time to play out. And good luck!
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reader, Sadi +, writes (22 February 2007):
 You need to give love another shot... Go for it.. You're so scared that he is going to end up a heart break like the rest of them, but, you should really give it another try,, Men, well lets just say that 80 % of them arent what they seem, and those are the ones your used to. You sound like the type of lady who pushes herself away at the thought of love,,, .. Wow.. I say, go for it... You deserve it.. All this may seem too sudden to you. Could it be it because you found a real man..? .. I say dress up, and have a terrific time... Let love take its coarse.... :)
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