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writes:Ok.....so in the beginning of me and my boyfriends relationship I said that I dont like when he checks girls out because I find it to be disrespectful to me...and he said "ok, but iv been doing it my whole life, but if you give me some time I can change it" and i said "okay well i will give you time to get out of the habit becuase I dont like it"...and he said "ok!" So after three weeks he said hes done doing that...but now two and a half years later he admits to me that hes been lieing to me our whole realtionship and he still does check girls out! So i freaked out on him and we got into a big fight....but then stupid me said okay ill give you another chance to try again...but he said its going to take a while...i dont know what I should do! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): Hi
The only lie here, is to yourself...we were given eyes to see...my partner looks at other women and i would be a fool to think i could ever stop him. Above all i would hate to think he had to close his eyes every time a girl walks by , it's not right or fair to make your lover feel repressed. Feel good about yourself and know that other men are probably looking at you too. While mine looks at a pretty girl ...i may be winking at some sexy guy...no harm...then we go home ( me and the sexy guy ) my partner.
change your vision not his...
Good luck
via con dios.
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reader, CrazyMind  +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Whilst it may frustrate you that he does it, it's a natural thing to do.
As 'Mr Me' said, girls do it too!
As Ginalolabridga said - he's being honest with you. At least you know where you stand - he checks them out, but he's still with you - you're the one he's picked out of every girl that he's ever checked out. Now THAT should make you feel special.
My question to you is: In the time you've been with your boyfriend, have you never looked at another and thought they look nice? It's exactly the same as what he's doing.
- Crazy
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Almost every guy is going to look at other girls. It's about as common as girls going "ooo, Brad Pitt is hot", or "McDreamy really is dreamy", or "that guy over there is cute".
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Wow, you are controlling. There is nothing wrong with a man looking at a woman as long as he's not drooling and ore being weird about it. You can't ask him not to check out women.
You lucky he is honest about it.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Is he hitting on girls? Or only looking at them?
I know its frustrating, but all guys to some extent check out other girls, it's habit.
I wouldn't get so mad unless it's so obvious that he's checking them out right in front of you.
Now if he's going up to them and hitting on them and asking for their number, then dump him. But don't punish him for simply being a young guy.
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