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writes: Me and my boy friend have been together for 2 years with a 3 month split in the middle because he is joining the army. Whilst waiting to go in the army he has got a job at a sport shop. Previously i found out that a girl called "julie" fancied him. this didnt bother me because no girl wants a bf that no one else fancies. he was over at my house the other day and i was joking around and said something that wasnt very nice i ws joking but straight away i knew it hurt him. i appologised repeatedly but he was still upset wit me. i went down stairs and took a pic of myself pulling a sad face and said sorry as many times as the message would allow me to. i went up stairs looked at his phone and he had a message. he read it but i wernt the one from me, he said it was his mate askin if he was out at the weekend. i didnt think anything of it until he was looking in his message box to see if my message had come through and there was a message from "julie" not "adam". i read the message and it was nothing to worry about but why did he lie? why did he give this girl his number? surely giving your number to someone who fancies you is leading them on! what do i do? should i be worried? Reply to this Question
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reader, nofrills +, writes (11 February 2006):
 You are too kind for this guy.And he lied to you.There is actually no excuse for lying!Another thing, that girl has no business asking for his number! What are her intentions with your boyfriend, is what you must ask.Sort her out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): hey thanx for your advice. i didnt read the message behind his back, we looked through the phone together to see if it had come through, he then read the message to me. i asked him why he had given her his number and he just said coz she had asked for it. i said to him do you not just think that is adding coal to the fire, and he just shrugged his shoulders. i asked him why he lied and he said because he knew i would get jealous and we would have an arguement. i told him that i woulda been jealous but now im just hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): yes you should be worried. he may not be cheating on you with this girl, but he obviously thinks he might or he wouldnt be lying about her text. i would never dream of giving my number out to anyone who fancied me because i know my boyfriend would be upset. he doesnt respect you and he isnt honest with you. save yourself some future heart break and dump0 him xx
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reader, Bekah +, writes (10 February 2006):
 This might sound like a stupid question, but have you attempted to talk to him about this? Things that seem so much like molehills when re-examined with more information are found to be nothing much at all. I'm not by this meaning anything, just that it would be far more effective if you talk to your boyfriend personally. It could be a simple mis-understanding. Giving your number to somebody who you know fancies you, doesn't necessarily mean that you fancy them. If your b/f has no feelings for her, but wants to be her friend then why not? In my opinion, and this is just mine, i would recommend talking to him yourself, and explaining what you know. Do not explain what you 'think' is going on, or accuse him of anything, simple ask in a quizical manner, because you don't quite understand why he would give his number to a girl that blatently likes him. He might be oblivious that it means anything more than friends for all you know. The way your mind set appears to be now, is that you are analysing everything into far too much detail, which isn't necessary, and working you up because you don't know the answers.. Sorry that is the only advice i can give, but if you want a stable, and happy relationship honesty is by far the best option than to run around behind his back reading his text msgs, looking for more incriminating evidence that works YOU into a frenzy. It needn't be the case. Just relax, be honest..you may upset him, but in the long run, far less than if you stood up openly and accused him of something. Thanks, and hope i help.
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