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writes:I posted about a couple of weeks ago stating that my bf left me unexpectedly and i need some advice. Well, i learned today that he is seeing someone new. Him and i have been together 6 years and have only been broken up for 2 weeks. Within those two weeks i didn't contact him, rather he contacted me and we talked. He said that he was just trying to get his head clear and that he was confused about our relationship, he loved me and there's a part of him that still wants to be with me. I asked if he'd been seeing someone and he told me "no". Well, today, he confessed and told me that he is talking to someone and when i tell you my world is crashing down. I can't even begin to explain the feelings i have right now. He might as well take a gun and shoot me in the head. I'm so hurt, i don't know what to say or do. I know i'm gonna get "move on" but this is easier said than done. I've got papers and finals and i can't even think straight right now. I'm so not motivated to do anything. I love him sooo much you guys..i mean, how could he do this? I don't know if he's just telling me this or if it's true. Part of me is believing it and part of me isn't. I can't believe he would do this to me after all these years now he's talking to someone else. Wow.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Hiyaaaaa,
I think that you should just forget this guy (I know it seems hard) but try at least... focus on your studies they are more important.
Now that he is going out with someone else you can try and move on a bit and still talk to him as a friend don't let this step back take a toll on your friendship too.
You know that quote they say, the really cliche quote "if you love someone set them free, if it comes back it's yours if it isn't it was never meant to be". It's a really good way of testing to see if your relationship is real but honey there are other men out there and maybe you should get out but don't jump straight into dating just patch up your heart first by going out with friends and just getting comfort you know.
Ways you can get over your ex is that you could sing... honestly singing really helps... singing a really good song like in your case "Grenade - Bruno Mars" or "Since you been gone - Kelly Clarkson" really depends so sing your heart out!
Secondly is just cry... let it all out hun let it all out and cry and cry till you got no more tears so that way you can feel a lot better. The first week is bound to be hard but you know you can do this! Your a lot stronger than you think!
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
AND Smileeeeeeeeeeee :D
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): Believe it. In fact this other person is the reason he broke up with you. He just didn't have the nerve to end it with you until he was relatively certain he'd established something elsewhere.
I think if you look back, maybe not now but at some point, you'll see he'd been slowly withdrawing for some time. This break up didn't just come out of the blue.
I'm very sorry your boyfriend acted like a cad. As difficult as it is to concentrate on anything that is really the best thing for you. Allow yourself some quiet time to grieve but don't neglect anything that will help you get ahead in life.
This hurt will pass and you'll be even stronger. Many of us have been through it.
Best of luck on your finals.
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