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writes:I am very insecure about myself, and my boyfriend knows it. But it feels like he is always using my insecurities against me in some way. He always is going on and on about how clumsy I am, and its not in a gentle teasing manner either. He is always telling his friends about things I do wrong, and always going on and on about how "I'm so lucky to have him" and that "He is so much better than me". If I tell him I don't want to do something he says some thing like, well its better than you leaving and tripping down the stairs. Whenever I compliment one of my friends on a haircut , he says, maybe you should get that, then you would be prettier. Is he intentionally making me feel even less sureabout myself or is it just in my head? I don't want to ruin our relationship by being so worried about something that doesn't even exist.
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reader, N91  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Congrats for dumping him, but I hope you told somebody that he hit you! That is not acceptable for a guy to hit a girl and he needs to be punished for it.
That just shows you made the right decision in dumping him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice.
I got up the nerve to dump him last night, and he hit me... but I feel better now that I'm not with him.
Never again will I let a guy put me through that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): Trust your gut--your bf is being intentionally mean. This is emotional abuse, and it needs to stop now. It will only get worse if you allow it to continue.
Stand up for yourself and tell him he can't talk to you or about you like that anymore. And if he doesn't stop, show him the door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): This guy sounds more like your enemy than your boyfriend. You need to dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): This is horrible, you need to tell him how much this is hurting you. No one deserves to be treated like this, it sounds like emotional abuse to me, and in my opinion you should end the relationship with him. don't let him carry on talking down to you. I hope my advice helps and please keep us posted!
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reader, N91 +, writes (4 July 2011):
This sounds like emotional abuse, he's belittling you and making it out like you are inferior to him. Tell him it's got to stop or you'll show him the door.
Good luck
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reader, ilanah tromans +, writes (4 July 2011):
 thats horrible!! i think you should tell him how you feel and tell him if he carries on he'll loose you, im clumsy myself still doesnt mean people should tease you about it atall, no girls deserves to be teased about their insecurities it will make you loose self confidence, just make sure you sit him down and tell him how its making you feel and hopefully he will realise and stop, good luck babe!
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