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writes:Hi everyone, im going through hell. i have just broken up with my bfriend, he has left me to move back in with is ex.we find out i had a miscarriage on the tuesday and on the wed he moved out with his two kids, who i helped surport. They loved me to pieces they thought his ex was boring.He has been sending horrible texts and now he is saying sorry for the way he went on, but soon as his gfriend is here they go back to nasty ones.What do I do? I want him back. He left her cause he really liked me, she has a baby with him. But she is a large girl and he told me I am so much better. Will he come back? How do I act to get him back? help me xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Why do you want him back? He is back at home with his family where he belongs. What does this woman being large have to do with why he left her? Obviously he liked something about her if he slept with her and had children with her. Save yourself the headache this guy is dishonest , and he is a cheater walk away while you can.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That is never pleasant.
You say your guy went back to his ex. You say he left her because he liked you better and that she is a larger woman and you are better. His children say she is boring.
I'm sorry to say that you don't sound like you really understand love. You started to date a man who was in a relationship and had a child with his partner. That was the first mistake.
How did the kids get the idea that their mother was boring? And, it's actually nobodies business if she is boring. Maybe she's sad because someone came along and her relationship was destroyed. It's easy to be super woman with his kids when you're not actually the parent. This also makes the birth mother appear boring.
Why do you want him back? You say he has two kids and she has a baby with him. What is the clear picture? I don't get it. HE cheats on his first partner with you. You go along with it. He goes back to her. You want him back. This is not a good situation. Why do you want to live this way? Everyone is making poor choices here.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Hi,
This guy is not worth your tears. I am not sure why you would want someone that has treated you so terrible. Are the children hers as well?.
Darling, its hard being in love with someone that, deep down you know is a complete sh**. You are in love and can see no reasoning. Its probably made it harder the fact you have just lost a baby. BUT I think all things happen for a reason, and how do you know he wouldn't have left you with a baby on your own.
The other lady just wants the father of her children back, and will be feeling the same as you do in a few months time when he runs off again.
Get yourself together, you have had a lucky escape even though you dont feel that way at the moment.
The way your question reads, is that his ex is not the mum either, or did I get that wrong.
If she's not, do you really want a man that will do that to you. I know its hard, really I do. But for your own sake, you can do so much better.
XX Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): well havin 2 misscarriges and a beatiful son years later ! the only advice i am gonna give you is you have to emotionally get over it before you can move on in any way. maybe he was scared that you would blame him blame was put on me for my first one and i could only cry then i told him i waited so long ( 4 mths ) to tell him cause i couldnt bear the fact he wasnt with me and the baby was gone so i couldnt tell anyone i could not even say the word miscarrige till i had to tell him .. after you get over that part things should fall back into place !!! hopefully
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