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*asquerade711
writes:Hello everyone and anyone! Ok, so about 2 weeks ago I had sex for the first time (don't worry, we used a condom). It definitely hurt...a LOT...so much that it was almost unbearable and I had to keep telling the guy to stop and give me a break. I guess he didn't like having to stop because he went limp after 10 mins, and we stopped soon after that. I'm almost positive there was no pre-cum, and he definitely didn't orgasm. (But like I said, we used a condom!) My question is, could I still possibly be pregnant? I'm not 100% sure when my next period is supposed to be but I'm always irregular. Thanks!
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reader, masquerade711 +, writes (26 September 2007):
masquerade711 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone, for the responses! You really helped to set my mind at ease. I have since taken a pregnancy test and it came up negative, much to my relief. I bought 2 of them and I'm going to do it again in a couple of weeks, just to be on the safe side. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Firstly, when losing your virginity it is natural for it to hurt, but what isnt natural is when telling the guy ur sleeping with to take it easy, he shouldnt get upset or fustrated if he does then he really isnt understanding at all. Secondly if you used a condom and he didnt cum then there is no chance you will be pregnant, but from the sounds of it i personally think that you didnt use a condom, because you mentioned pre-cum. Now as a women regardless of whether ur a virgin or not you should always make a record of your periods, especially if you are irregular!!! now you have to be honest with yourself, i suggest you wait a week either seek advise from your local GP/Sexual health clinic where they will provide you with support and i would also advise you take a pregancy test (if what i think is correct) if not then do not worry you have nothing to fear, just make sure you tell this guy that he is an idiot, and ask him how he would like it if a cucumber was forced up his fanny (bum hole)? Just make sure u feel comfortable with the person you are with next time?
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 If he wore a condom, there didn't seem to be any pre-cm and he didn't come, then chances are very very slim you are pregnant!
Maybe for peace of mind you should go on the pill as well as using condoms? That way if there are ever any mishaps, you will have the pill as back up.
You can also keep track of your ovulation on charts and how likely you are to become pregnant, you should start keepin gtrack of your periods even if you are irregular. Going on the pill would help that problem, you would know exactly, to the date, when you would be coming on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): I would say that it is most unlikely. You might even have a better chance of winning the lottery.You have taken all of the precautions that you could have. Try not to worry about it too much as often stress can be the cause of delayed periods.
The sex thing - most peoples 'first time' is looked back upon and laughed about. Don't worry that you didnt enjoy it or that he went limp. It takes time to learn how to enjoy sex and what sexual experiences you like.
Everyone is different and im sure when you are ready to try it again it will be much more successful - try to relax, it might not hurt so much.
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reader, gingertiger001 +, writes (25 September 2007):
First of all if it hurt a lot then you weren't ready to have sex cos it shouldn't hurt that much if you're relaxed and ready and lubricated but anyway
as long as he put on the condom before he came anywhere near you you'll be fine. Men do have some sperm come out the tip of the penis called "pre-ejaculate" which can, very rarely, cause pregnancy but this would have only happened once you were having sex
i would recommend using foreplay and lots of lubricant next time you have sex to relax you.
Know this is isn't what you asked but beleive me, you'll both enjoy it a lot more
and well done for using a condom!
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (25 September 2007):
 it's not very likely to be honest. if he didn't reach orgasm and there wasn't any cum, the chances are almost zero.
the majority of girls who have sex for the first time say it hurt like crazy but i promise after a few times, it'll get better.
best of luck
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