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writes:Hello,I'm conflicted... I don't know what to do.One time, just one, I get mad for a foolish reason. He told me, " let's not talk anymore" and deleted me everywhere. I loved him. It just hurts to see how easily he let me go, away from his life. I thought people said you learn from your mistake but I didn't even get a chance to learn. Everyday, I think about him as creepy as this sounds. Just everything reminds me of him because we did everything together. I want to apologize so bad. But that feeling of it's too late. I thought about it multiple of times. It's been a few weeks since our fight and it just feels like that few weeks were a few years. That feeling where it's too late to say anything. Keep in mind we fought every week which was probably tiring for him.We spent so much time together but I guess it was like nothing to him.I need word of advice. I don't know what to do anymore. I miss him so much. All I ever think about is him.(Sorry if my words are all over the place) Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 October 2015):
 Are you seeing him in real life every day at school? Or was this something that was happening in the virtual world?
How did you meet, how long were you two a couple, how much time did you spend together (in real life), how much time did you spend together (virtual world)?
If I were you, I'd be talking with my best friends and my family about my feelings and about the breakup. What do they say or think about this situation?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (27 October 2015):
"I thought people said you learn from your mistake but I didn't even get a chance to learn."
Yes you did learn from your mistake...Your mistake was to be with him in the first place...why??? If he can drop you so easily...then he did not feel the same way about you.
I know this is not what you wanted hear...you want to hear how to fix things and make it better. Sorry my dear...as you get older you will understand that some things have to happen the way they do for your own good. Remember this...Bad things happen for good reasons...It is not to make you weak, but stronger.
Think about this for a bit...What if you were older, have kids, married...and he did this to you? Which do you think is worst?? Finding out now he is a jerk...Or finding out later when you needed him the most??? See...it didn't happen just because...Life is protecting you from jerks like him later on.
The more you learn about guys like this, the better chance you have to finding an awesome guy who will stand by you when you need him most. :))
So...time for you to find someone better. :)))
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (27 October 2015):
It doesn't sound like this relationship has much life left in it. But keep in mind that no healthy person wants to be in a relationship where they fight every week. Try to be a peace-keeper in future relationships. Good luck to you!
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (27 October 2015):
I’m sorry if my words sound harsh because you are young and I don’t wish to upset you, but actually you can learn a great deal. If you fought all the time, it means you couldn’t establish good communication and it is a clear sign that you weren’t suited to each other. You say you love him but I’m afraid just having feelings for some-one isn’t enough: you’ve got to be able to get on and function properly together. I fear you ignored the warning signs, or didn’t recognise them. Please understand that constant fighting, especially at the start, is a clear warning to walk away before you allow your feelings to develop and get as hurt as you are feeling now again. I understand that’s not an easy answer but I’m afraid you’ll just have to put this down to experience.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, BloggerChick +, writes (27 October 2015):
 Please don't feel like you're in the wrong here. If he can walk away that easily then he clearly was not worthy of you. I mean all girls and women fly off the rails about absolutely nothing sometimes (let's just blame it all on hormones rather than the fact that we're a little insane at times). It takes a strong man to fully understand and appreciate a woman rather than walking out after every argument. Equally it takes a strong woman to build a strong man. At least that made sense in my head...
My point is, maybe he just needed some space (and you too) away from all that fighting to just reflect. If you give him that space then he might realise the mistake he's made in leaving you over something stupid and then he might come back to you. That's not certain. If he does, then great. If he doesn't, then great (you'll know it wasn't meant to be).
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2015): You contradict yourself: in a beginning you said, you got mad at him just n e, then you saying you fought every day.
Fighting everyday is not ok if you want to be in a stable relationship. It's very unhealthy to fight all the time. He was right to break it off. And yes, you had a chance to learn. What you need to learn is how not to fight with your friends and lovers.
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