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writes:Hi,So there's this guy that I work with who I have a crush on.He knows i like him actually but i dont know how he feels.Anyway we talk a lot at work and have started talking outside of work too.Well he told me today how he went on a date this weekend and well of course I got jealous but I didnt let him know that.I'm just wondering if by him telling me how he went on a date is that a sure sign he doesnt care for me like I do for him?
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reader, Justme93 +, writes (30 November 2018):
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2018): It's your job, and your crushes should be kept to yourself. It's not a singles bar or your dating pool. Obviously he doesn't feel the same about you; if he asked someone else on date! Now you're pouting at work and acting childish.
That's exactly why any guy with half a brain shouldn't be dating female co-workers. Something goes wrong off the job, and she will bring it to work...just like you have!
You're an American worker, the law requires companies with a certain number of employers to provide sexual harassment and sexual misconduct training to prevent foolishness that could lead to liability. People don't know how to stay professional; and remember when they're on the clock, they are there to work! They are not on the playground or at a single's bar!
Can-it with the pouting and childish behavior. Keep your flirting to yourself. He doesn't have to date you if he doesn't want to! He can be nice to you without wanting a date! I would advise him to stay far away from you; so you both can behave and keep your jobs!
Do your man-hunting away from the place where you earn your rent money!
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (29 November 2018):
 I think he likes you as a friend and is concerned about how you are acting but trust me, if he really wanted to ask you out he would have done so by now. Even really shy men build up the courage to ask out someone they are truly interested in. He considers you a coworker not date material. Its never wise to date someone you work with anyways so do yourself a big favor and accept things as they are and set your sights on someone they can return your feelings
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2018): Look some boys have strange ways to show that they are interested in somebody and one of those is making you jealous. Are you sure he had a date with another chick. Ask him. Don't be afraid. If he is truly dating someone else then that is it. Stay away from him and he has no right to pester you why you are keeping distant from him.
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reader, Justme93 +, writes (28 November 2018):
Justme93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did get bummed out and haven't been myself and the guy keeps questioning me on what's wrong. And when i said yesterday how it doesn't matter.he said how it seems like it does matter and that eventually gonna get me to tell him. Hes said how my mood is bringing him down. I said well then you don't have to be by me. And he just kind of looked at me. I've tried not sitting by him at breaks, I've moved away from where he/we normally sit and he still comes and sits across from me. And still is talking to me like nothing is wrong.
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reader, Justme93 +, writes (28 November 2018):
Justme93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay so he initially found out I liked him by another co-worker hinting at it because she was questioning me and I told her that yes in fact I did like him.we use to be on the same crew but I got switched crews a month ago so we dont directly work together but we still have sat together at breaks. There's another co-worker of ours who for a few months has given the guy shit about me/always asks him if he likes me.hearing how he went on a date hurt and did make me jealous.
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reader, Justme93 +, writes (28 November 2018):
Justme93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHes said how my mood is bringing him down. I said well then you don't have to be by me. And he just kind of looked at me. I've tried not sitting by him at breaks, I've moved away from where he/we normally sit and he still comes and sits across from me. And still is talking to me like nothing is wrong.
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reader, Justme93 +, writes (28 November 2018):
Justme93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay so he initially found out I liked him by another co-worker hinting at it because she was questioning me and I told her that yes in fact I did like him.we use to be on the same crew but I got switched crews a month ago so we dont directly work together but we still have sat together at breaks.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (28 November 2018):
 How does he know how you feel?. Have you actually told him personally that you have feeling's for him?. If you have then honestly that changes everything.
Knowing your feelings towards him i think that was wrong to tell you about about a date he had at the weekend. He is either trying to wind you up and make you jealous, or he is just playing games.
Or maybe he just does not want to cross the boundry of taking a work relationship to another level. Depending on how close you work together work relationships are good when things are all sweet. But when/if things went sour then things can become somewhat messy, not just for you, but uncomfortable for your co-workers also. I would just maintain your friendship with him and look for romance away from the work place.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 November 2018):
 Sweetie, if he knows how you feel and still isn't asking you out then I'm sorry but he's not interested in you.
Guys are simpler than we think. If they like someone then they'll do anything and everything to be with that person. They won't waste time.
I don't see any reason why he would go on a date with someone else if he really liked you. I'm sorry, I know it sucks but in a way it's a good thing because dating a co-worker isn't such a good idea in any case.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 November 2018):
 I think it could be two things:
A: he wanted to see if you would be jealous.
B: He likes you as a person but you are not someone he would want to date.
Either way, it should tell you that he isn't someone you ought to pursue, because either he plays games or he just isn't into you THAT way.
Maybe he is smart enough to know that romance in the work place is not a good idea. And honestly, you need to take that HINT to heart.
Having a crush on a coworker and liking a coworker it happens, but it RARELY works out and then what? AWKWARDNESS in the work place, not just for the two of you but for everyone around you!
You are not at your work to look for dating material. You are there to work, earn a living.
Keep romance and your private life outside of work.
Look to meet people to date OUTSIDE of your work place.
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