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writes:I was having a bad day, new job new city, overworked/stressed, very sad missing my sister, my little brother, etc., When all of a sudden my guy friend/co-worker (whom until this moment seemed oblivious to my emotional hang-ups) pulled me into a corner cupped my face and lightly kissed my cheeks nose and forehead, paused and then my (closed) lips. It was the most sweetest thing anyone has ever done, including my still friendly ex. Then he just acted like it was no big deal and asked if I felt better.. Yes I did perk up but now I have crazy butterflies replaying the kisses. Why did he do that and then act so d'uh??! I haven't made an effort to observe him or anyone else at work. I'm too busy to focus on dating. But I realize now maybe I'm a bit lonely.He's seems very private about his personal life, and well respected at work, I don't know if he's seeing anyone? Should I stop making a big deal out of it? For the record I never got creep vibes from him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Haha wow. I applaud this man as he read you well. However, I feel his reaction to what he did is a little off and may be that he was just shocked at the feelinsg he got from what he did and he doesnt know how to express those to you simply cause he may not know you well or simply cause he's, like you said, reserved. Men who are private (im one) can def have a hard time relaying feelings just because we are scared of what a woman might think. I think he may be insecure here honestly cause his reaction isnt normal. Talk to him. Ask him out and get to know him possibly. He obviously cares for you I think. Just be careful with mixing relationships and work. Best to you miss :)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 It depends on how you feel about it? Do you think it was a big deal? If it was then I think it best you talk to him about it because, you sound as though you may be interested romantically in him.
If he was seeing someone, would he have kissed you? Does he seem likely to cheat or do you think him more noble than that?
Just tell him how you feel about what he did and ask him if he would like to perhaps have dinner with you. He works with you so that would help, your schedules should not clash that much as opposed to someone completely different who may have much more free time than you in which case that man would feel neglected. I think something may happen here and you might enjoy it.
I hope that helps.
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