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writes: ok, my boyfriend and i have been dating for five years, the past year has been really hard on both of us ( we have been living with my mother)... and i cant lie, ive thought about leaving and questioned my love for him numerous times, but everytime it came down to it, i realized i still really am in love with him.... anyways 2 weeks ago on sat. we got in a huge fight (not sure what it was about becasue we were both extremly drunk) anyways we ended up breaking up, and he went out to a bar, and kissed a girl.... i know that it dosnt seem like much, but it really is killing me. He told me about it and felt bad about it... but cant take it back, then four days later (last thursday) i found out i am pregnant, so of course we are back together... i fell like this is for the best, he is very sorry and apolegitic, and we are both working on changing, of course i wont be drinking at all, and he has cut back almost completly... but my question is... am i am fool? should i stay with him, i know i should for the babys sake... i mean he has been completly faithful for five years, but this one little kiss is really killing me... am i making too big of a deal out of it? and do you think he honeslty thinks its a mistake, and should/and how do i forgive him?
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reader, marie78 +, writes (11 November 2006):
He kissed a girl after the two of you broke-up, so you need to let that go. It happened, and it's over. You cannot change the past. In regards to the baby, the two of you shouldn't be 2gether if it's just for the baby's sake. You need to sit down with your man and ask him if the two of you being together is makes sense (you did break-up for a reason)... Ask yourself...Is the baby the only reason you're together again? Talk out your concerns with your bf. he sounds like a good guy... most guys would continue to stay single, even if a woman is pregnant with their child. Good luck!
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reader, Finding My Way +, writes (10 November 2006):
The unfortunate thing with us men is that we are, generally, not as bright as you girls!
Even though, as you say, you had had a row and broken up so it was not technically cheating, it has hurt you. However, he obviously knows this and has been honest about it, so he must care for you.
If he's genuinely sorry and you just give a small allowance for him being male, I'm sure you will get through this. Try to forgive him and just enjoy his making it up to you!
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): That must be really hard to deal with. I'd be really hurt if that happened to me too. I think you can probably get through it and resolve it though because even though he kissed another girl, he still didn't actually cheat on you. If you got in a big fight and then broke up and then he kissed her, he wasn't technically cheating. The fact that he actually told you about it right away is a really good thing also. It means that he's honest and really cares about making your relationship work. I think that he sounds pretty trustworthy. For your own sake and for the sake of the baby, I hope you guys can work this out. Good luck.
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