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writes:I have been with my my boyfriend for a little over two years. This week I had went behind his back and hung out with my ex, my ex would call me beautiful and do little gestures like put his hand on my leg while driving grab my butt randomly and open doors for me something my boyfriend never really did. Im clearly attracted to my ex and I started to act different and weird for a few days and my boyfriend was curious as to why I kept telling him I was confused and I wasn't even eating. Well my boyfriend got sick of be acting weird and said he couldn't be with me If I was acting like that so we went on a break the night we went on a break I hung out with my ex and we kissed and I gave him a hand job he kissed my neck and etc but everyone is telling my boyfriend worse things and blowing it up worse than it is. I was at his house last night and he found out everything then and kicked me out he texted me this morning and said he couldn't be with me anymore and idk what to do he is my everything and I love him more than anything! He is my world and he makes me feel like I have a purpose in this world. We are both each others first serious relationship as well. Do you think he will get back with me? He said he wants to be with me but doesnt think he can ever forgive me for this and he cant even look at me. What should I do? Are we going to get back together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2014): You were away for one night and you did stuff with your ex?! You're meant to wait at least a week on a break if u have to stray... No he won't.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 December 2014):
 I think SOMETHING was lacking in your relationship. Maybe you felt your BF was giving you enough attention, but here is the deal... GETTING that attention from an ex... is NOT a good idea. That may be the reason, however.... it sounds to me like you are making up excuses as to why you did what you did.
YOU hooked with the ex because you WANTED to. YOU made that choice. And you got found out.
Going on a break doesn't mean you are exempt for a little while to do things you shouldn't do. If you REALLY love your BF you wouldn't have "hung" out with the ex when there still were some kind of sparks flying.
Are you going to get back together? I have no idea. My guess is your most recent BF doesn't want you back, at least not right now.
So what can you do? You can start by taking some responsibility for your actions. Not make excuses, like you had eaten. Seriously? Being hungry means you make out with an ex?
Then you can LEARN from this. Some people are capable of being friends with an ex, you don't seem to be able to do that, so maybe... keeping exes in your life isn't a good idea.
Give the recent BF some space (and don't go hook up no more with the ex) maybe he will realize that you two can work this out, maybe he won't.
Last but not least, don't build your world around a guy. Find your OWN purpose in life.
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reader, Sensible Alice  +, writes (19 December 2014):
 What a sad situation!The real shame in all this is that it took this one mistake with your ex to see that you really did love your boyfriend. Give him some space and take the time to think about what you want to do. You might decide it better to walk away. He may feel that the risk is too great. If you both decide to get back together be aware it will take your boyfriend a long time to trust you again and you'll have to prove yourself worthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2014): This is the paradox of the century! He is your world and you love him more than anything therefore you gave your ex a handjob.
Well if he has even an ounce of dignity, no he will never forgive you or take you back. If he goes back to you he will never live that down. He will be known around town as the biggest pussy of the 21st century. More likely than not he is getting drunk with his buddies right now and will soon be on the prowl to find a girl he can sleep with to "even the score."
You'd be lucky if he stands his ground and never forgives you. It'll reach you a very valuable lesson about relationships. Actions have consequences. DON'T CHEAT.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 December 2014):
 shame on you! OK, now I've got that out. Let mr ask you to reverse the situation (in your mind of course) Would you take him back? and if so why? Answer those questions and you will have your answer to this question you have presented.
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