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*ussycat 3
writes:i have had threesomes with my partner in the past but i have said that i dont want to do this any more but he keeps on asking me i am now confused as to wheter he loves me to keep pushing this subject.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): you should not be pushed into it.it is your body first and foremost to do with it what you want.if you do have sex there are lots of things to think about safe sex to start with,birth of a unwanted child,a husband that just may turn on you after you say you really enjoy others more than him and many more things to think about.
you may want to please him then try to make believe you have or had other lovers, you may tell him you would rather have sex with guys with out him there.you can have a night out to do what you want or whatever,you may want to seek help such as a doctor in the sex field.
now my wife and i have had other partners,i must say i do enjoy watching her with a guy.that is up to her i do not push her. we have seen so many guys who try to swing get in fights and yell at the wife if she is having to much fun. they start out by calling her a slut and other great words for things he wanted her to do.now she is a tramp or slut so he does not want any more to do with her.
please take your time and REALLY THINK about it,and if he can not understand your feelings on this he needs to grow up. good luck
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Hi, You have the right to say no, if you are uncomfortable
with the situation. Do not allow yourself to be forced into a situation, where you are not completely ok with what is going to take place. It is going to negatively impact your feelings toward him, and yourself. Let him know firmly that you don't like it and you don't want to do it again. If he insists, find another, more respectful individual, who is more considerate. Love has different faces, his may not be the best one for you to be staring into, he wants what he wants regardless of whay you want. Do not be manipulated.
Stand your ground. Take care, and good luck always.
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reader, pussycat 3 +, writes (8 July 2008):
pussycat 3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe threesomes were mfm, he says thaat its because he likes to see me enjoying myself but i enjoy it just being me and him as much as the threesome.
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reader, pussycat 3 +, writes (8 July 2008):
pussycat 3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanku so much 4 all ur replies.
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reader, Leo the Capricorn +, writes (7 July 2008):
the answer is no..you all ready know this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): You didn't say if you had two men or two women, which ever it is, try flipping it...if it was two women , ask himHave for a three-some with another man. You could tell him that you would like to experience that and then you can engage with another woman again, but not before. He probably won't bring it up again LOL
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reader, pussycat 3 +, writes (7 July 2008):
pussycat 3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANKU FOR ALL UR ANSWERS I WILL BE CONSIDERING THEM ALL, THEY ARE ALL GOOD ADVISABLE TIPS THANKYOU SO MUCH
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 I want to commend the Sister on this post. She has put it wonderfully.
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reader, donna1971 +, writes (7 July 2008):
if he really loved and respected you he would leave it alone.maybe he thinks he can talk you into if the previous times you did it took a bit of persuasion.you need to tell him straight that your answer is no and if your not enough for him and he won`t let it go then its time to walk away.......
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reader, Artistry +, writes (7 July 2008):
Hi, It is possible that he loves you, but also that he enjoys having three in a bed, the two things do not have to be mutually exclusive. But, you are the ultimate decider, as to whether or not you participate in the activity, this is your life, and your mental health. You want to have your wishes respected, which makes sense. If you are uncomfortable with the situation, explain this fully to him. Part of my explanation to him, would be the question, suppose one of us falls for the third person in the threesome, be it he or you. This is very dangerous and could pose quite a pitfall for your relationship. Open relationships in general do not always wind up, as a good thing, in the long run. Most people, maybe I am wrong here, but I would think, that most people, want to have their relationship confined to one individual at a time, or just not have a manogamus relationship at all, and enjoy the threesome scene. Too much of an open relationship may not be so good, especially if one of the partners is uncomfortable in the situation. I would be quite up front about my feelings, if he still insists, then you may have to make a decision about your relationship. Do not allow yourself to be forced into doing things, you do not wish to do, you will wind up being disgusted with yourself and him, and ultimately you will probably not like him for trying to force the issue. Be true to yourself, you will have more peace of mind. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (7 July 2008):
Yos said it all.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 If you have said clearly that you don't want to do this, and he keeps pushing, then he is being selfish. He's putting his desires in front of your happiness. That's not a good sign. He may be just being insensitive however (guys can be in love and still be inconsiderate...).
You need to very very clearly state that you are unwilling to have any more threesomes, and that it is NOT OK for him to ask again. Make sure you are 100% crystal clear and that he understands. If he still continues, then you need to not put up with it and be prepared to leave, since he probably doesn't love you if he behaves that way.
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