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female
age
41-50,
*tef25
writes:Hi guys. I've met this great guy, let's call him Tom in May. We met at work. He was really sweet, he bought me flowers and everything was perfect.We started dating.In July I had to leave the town for a month. He replied for my two e-mails and that's it. He didn't call me or text me at all. I started to worry. When I came back he explained he didn't want to bother me and that he doesn't like writing e-mails. We dated in August and then I had to move out of town in September (for university). I moved only an hour's drive from where he lives. As he was in the process of changing jobs I was hoping he might move with me but he told me he would have to have a reason to do that (it hurt). I was teasing him that maybe we should break up and he said yes we should as he doesn't want a long distance relationship (he cried that evening). After I "broke up with him" I've told him I was just teasing him and that I care for him more than anything.I even offered I would quit school to stay with him but he said no.I tried to talk to him but he said he doesn't know what to say. And that it's HIM , not me.That he's depressed. That he doesn't trust women and that his parents messed him up. And that he's sorry.It's been a month now that I haven't seen him. This is always me who writes, texts or calls. I am confused as the last time I saw him we made up and he said he wants to try make it work.I know I am being pathetic but I can't help it. My pride jumped out of the window and I feel like I have no respect for myself. He keeps on hurting me and I keep on loving him. All of my friends tell me to give up on him and that I deserve better.I'm 25 and he's 27.Please help!!! Shall I give him another chance?
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reader, flower girl +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Stop wasting your time on someone that really can't be bothered babe, like you say you are at uni so get out there and enjoy yourself and get your qualifications, let him play his games with someone else.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Lila  +, writes (6 October 2007):
 No way!Finish school and get your s$@* together!Do you wanna be a 25 year old preg. girl without a degree and a luke warm boyfriend? No, years later say 29 when you have a degree and possibly the love of your life you will thank god, until then just have fun.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Your friends are right. You don't need to waste your time on him. Your better than him, so chin up and move on.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (6 October 2007):
No more chances. The next moves, if any, shold come from him.
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