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writes:It’s almost ten years ago I talked with a guy online .He was almost 17 years older then me. I was 34 and he was around 51.We chat online and we met . We liked each other.Next day , I texted him many times but he didn’t respond.Then he respond and he was mad why I texted him many times .He was not interested anymore to meet me again.I know it was my mistake. We never talked again in last ten years.It’s two months ago he texted me and wanted to meet me .I told him I am not online anymore. I was confused to recognizing him then he disappeared.Yesterday I was in the mall I saw him but I tried to avoid him.He texted me at night and ask me to go out with him. I was still confused to recognize him . I told him I have been busy with my mom cancer treatment and I am not looking for relationship ( he didn’t ask how my mom is doing or if I need any help and disappeared again) I asked him few questions to make sure he is the same person he didn’t reply How come he like me but didn’t ask me about my mom ?He has my number in last ten years
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2019): Op here, Thanks for your kind replies. I hate he use me as back up plan.
Can I tell him delet my number from his black book?
I am not English native speaker so give me any idea I could tell him whenever he will text me next time
Thanks
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 January 2019):
 OP, does it really matter WHY he is now reaching out?
YOU can decide if you want ANYTHING to do with him or not. UP to you.
OR you can WASTE time pondering WHY he is now contacting you. Why give he free range to roam in your head-space?
It didn't work out 10 years ago, it's not going to now either.
Why waste energy on this man? AT ALL?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2019): Op here , he texted me few days ago and told me he likes me if I gave him one chance. After , he saw me in the mall.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 January 2019):
 How do you know he likes you ?.... His seems, in fact, the typical behaviour of someone who is bored / horny /just killing time.
If he could not be bothered to followp up and reply your text- then obviously he wasn't so terribly interested in meeting you .
The fact that you never keep someone's number if you are not interested… only goes to show that everybody is different. There's a whole lot of people who keep for ages whatever phone number they happen to get, either to build up their "little black book" as Honeypie said , or out of sheer laziness, or they don't see the point in cancelling phone numbers when they can simply...just not call ( until and unless they change their mind ). People like to know or to feel that they have options- even when it is very unlikely they will pursue that particular option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2019): Op here, sorry for misunderstanding,
Thanks for your reply . His phone was not working and I texted him many times . He felt it was not something mauture to texted him many times .
He was mad for few days and then massages me but I ignored.( it’s almost ten years ago about this incident)
I never keep someone number if I am not interested.
Yes I agree if liked me he contacted me in last ten years.
But , I really don’t know why he think I would want anything with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2019): Op here, Thanks for your reply . His phone was not working and I texted him many times 10 years . He felt it was not something mauture to texted him many times .
He was mad for few days and then massages me but I ignored.( it’s almost ten years ago about this incident)
I never keep someone number if I am not interested
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 January 2019):
Some people keep a "little black book" with numbers and names of people they have pursued, met, talked to, gotten to know, etc.
And WHEN they do not have ANY other prospects for entertainment, getting attention, affection, sex or what have you, they go through that "little black book" and see if anyone will bite.
He didn't LIKE you 10 years ago, he doesn't LIKE you now. Because HE didn't know you back then nor does he know you now.
If he has REALLY liked you 10 years ago he wouldn't have gone silent after meeting you. And he wouldn't have gotten mad that you texted him.
So, was he married 10 years ago? Looking for something on the side?
And why would he think YOU would WANT anything to do with him after his behavior 10 years ago? Why WOULD you have anything to do with him?
Personally, I'd BLOCK and DELETE his number and go about life as if he fell of the planet.
He didn't ask about your mom because he doesn't know her (or you) and he really doesn't care.
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