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writes: i have been sleeping with a guy a few times and he said he does not want a relationship however recently his been kissing me really sensually touching my hair stroking me cuddling staying the night and telling me we have more of a connection than his ex could this mean he is falling for me? can a man fall for a casual sex fling? i certainly have feelings for him but i am worried because he stated he doesn’t want a relationship im so confused
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (4 May 2024):
 He's telling you what he thinks you want to hear to keep you at his beck and call. If you don't value yourself, why would anyone else value you? Know your worth and don't undersell yourself.
I went out with a guy for about 12 months who was separated from his wife but not yet divorced. The radio was playing one day and Meatloaf came on singing "Two out of three ain't bad". This guy made a point of singing along to the chorus, while looking at me: "I want you, I need you, but there ain't no way I'm ever gonna love you, but don't be sad coz two out of three ain't bad". Then laughed and hugged me. I dumped his sorry arse the next morning.
Funny thing was, a few days later he phoned me to tell me that, for the first time since he had split up with his wife (she was having an affair and left him for the other guy), he had woken up thinking about ME and not HER. Too little, too late.
As I said, know your worth.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 May 2024):
 I think you should LISTEN to what he is saying.
He knows FULL well that in order to get SEX (casually) he has to make you WANT to have sex with him.
As SOON as you mention relationship or commitment, he will tell you, that he clarified that he is NOT looking for a relationship, ONLY casual.
Move on, OP
He just wants access to your vagina and having the "GF-experience".
You are too old to not know this.
If you are LOOKING for an ACTUAL relationship, this guy isn't it. He told you that. You are CHOOSING to ignore what he is saying.
He is saying you are "good enough to screw, but not good enough to date".
He is saying " why buy the cow when I get the milk for free and I don't have to do much to get that milk".
Have some self-respect. And NEXT time you meet a guy wait with the sex until you are BOTH on the same page and BOTH want a relationship.
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reader, pepper  +, writes (4 May 2024):
 Hi Hunny
Does he mean more of a connection sexually or in general? Because the beginning of a relationship is always very different from a long term relationship and it's going to be new and exciting for him. Ask yourself what you really want from this person and if after you've had a long deep think if you still feel like this. I would make sure to speak with him to see if his feelings about a relationship are the same as before. The only way you will find out and know which road to take are to get his view. It's better to know now, Rather than to go on confused and head all over the place
I hoped this helps a little, Take care Peps xxxx
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