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writes:my bf, who i have two kids with actually a new baby, is acting a little different lately. he tells me he loves me and things like that but then he says somethings like i have two kids with you regardless if i marry you or not i will know you for the rest of my life. what does that mean- he is second guessing us? or was it just to say will no each other for the rest of our life i no i love him a lot how do i no if he feels the same way? He tells me that he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me but then he goes out and lies to me about where he has been but also then tells me a couple days later what are my supose to think about that Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 This man is giving so many signs of something going on behind your back. Just the lies are bad. Maybe it's not he's seeing someone else, but, he is second guessing you. I have a bad feeling about his comment about your being in his life "whether he marries you or not", but I couldn't really say why I don't like it. I'm not sure if that is supposed to mean "I can take you for granted".
You are also asking how you would know if he loves you, too. I see your doubts have very good grounds. His lying is not an indication that he doesn't love you, but, that is something you shouldn't do to someone you love. I am unsure about how you would know whether he loves you. Perhaps you can give us information about how he behaves with you?
By the way, I notice he spoke about "whether he marries you or not". Have you asked him to marry you? How has he assumed his responsibility with you and your two children ("your" meaning "yours and his")?
Please, give us more information so we can help you better.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 You're supposed to think he is messing around behind your back. That's what it sounds like to me, unless he;s going to night school and not telling you about it for some reason. Trust your gut. Have a private detective or someone follow him, but don't let him know you're looking into it. If he loves you, which he probably doesn't know what love is, then he will lie and go farther underground if you confront him. If you find out he is cheating, the question for you is, "what will you do?"
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