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writes:okay, Where could I start?? I was in a relationship for 4 years, and I was engaged. We were already going to get married, but everything just start going down between us. Everything started out great and then it just went straight down, I was living with him for a 1 year. He was my everything and i know I was his. He was a great guy he was everything I asked for. But one day, i receive a phone call from him telling me that he was in jail, that he got stopped by the police and he was going to get deported because of cause he wasnt born here and he didnt have papers. So, I decide to go with him to mexico Because I know he needed me, but once we got to mexico the first days everything was good but then everything started to change, he was a different person. He wasnt the guy I know, the guy I fell in love with, it was like if i didnt know who he was anymore. He started to get really aggressive with me, he will yell at me for everything. So, i decide to walk away from our relationship, so i came back home and i didnt go back. It was the hardest thing ever, but I know i had to do it because I wasnt happy anymore. So 3 monthes later, I go to mexico... I go in a store and there he was, he was working. I was so happy to see him, all my feelings come back, when I saw him I just wanted to go and hug him and kiss him. So, I go up to him and we started to talk, and he told me to stay so we could talk, and I did because I wanted to see how everything was going for him because will of cause I still cared for him. So, after that day we both decided that everything that happened between us, happened and that will that it was best for us just if we werent together anymore. A month later i find out I was PREGNANT... So will of cause I told him, and we got back together,.. but everything was differnet between us,.. he was the same guy I have left monthes ago. But this time I was trying to work it out because i was pregnant, I wanted us to be together, I wanted to form a family with him. A few days later i find out that he was seeing someone esle and that he had moved on,.. it hurt me so much because he moved on so fast. So, i came home I was two months pregnant. He didnt care anymore he was happy with his new girlfriend, that he didnt care if i was okay or if the baby i was expecting was okay, he never called me. And when my baby was born we started to talk again, and we tried to work it out between us, we were trying to form a family. But it was like if the only one that was trying was me because he didnt care about anything anymore .. i felt like he didnt love me anymore, even though he well tell me he did i know he didnt.. so then a few days later i find out he was still seeing the same girl.. that he was playing with both of us. So, that really hurted me beacause after everything i went threw with him, he does this to me... But now he hates me so much, that we dont even talk, he doesnt call me to see how his baby is,.. its like if my baby doesnt have a dad,.. my baby is now 4 months and not once has he called to see how she is,.. he's to into his girlfriend that he doesnt care about his own baby. I dont know whats going to happen next, I just know that we dont need him ,.. I just hope that one day he realize what he did and if everything that he did was worth him living his family.. my question is Will he ever change?? Will he ever be there for my baby??
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reader, charitysend +, writes (22 February 2011):
Probably not. He will probably never change.
You made a classic mistake -- you got pregnant by someone who doesn't care. I'm sorry, both for you and for the child.
The only thing you can do now is try to make the best life that you can for the child and for yourself. Without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): well first off, that is a sad situation but in today's society, it is happening more frequently. the guy makes the girl feel like he's the one, whispers sweet nothings to her, even throws the "L" word around. Girl gives up everything for him, and the whole time he is unsure and is just playing games because he is living for the moment and not caring what impact his decisions have on ppl. so what is with that passive "girl" he's with, feel bad for her since she sees exactly what he's done to you and his child, yet she stays. wow, she's lost.
U know what, forget him and promise your baby to be there for him/her. your life has a newer better reason now and its not HIM!
So fill your life with positive ppl and keep putting one foot n front of the other. Raise your child to have better respect than that "boy" of a father. and when God sees your life back on the right path, which hopefully is, he will send you and yur baby someone special in your lives =)
wishing you the best...take care.
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