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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): i'm in the same spot but my guy turns 16 (45 days) after i turn 18 and everybody is saying that things will be ok so i guess we'll both have to trust ppl on this matter huh.
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reader, skyebabe  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 reli there is not that much age gap aslong a you dont have sex till hes 16 than thats fine it doesnt matter about how old you are if you love eachover then you cant change that if u wanna talk email me xx and dont worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you everyone for all the replies :)they're really appreciatedxxxx
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reader, kat14 +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Im in the same position but the other way around im almost 16 but my boyfriend is nearly 18. If its ok for girls to go out with older guys. why shouldnt guys go out with older girls?personally its probally better that way as guys are usually seen as the ones who pressure girls into things.I really think you should go for it theres not much of a age gap. But make sure he does really love you and doesnt just like the idea of bragging about having an 18 year old girlfriend. Hope i've helped a bit. Best of luck xxx
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reader, chiikka skyyyyy  +, writes (22 August 2007):
if your 17 and hes 15 theres not much of a age gap. and if you really love eachother age shouldnt matter.
i talked to someone else who was 16 and she liked a 35 years old now thats wrong but your only 2 to 3 years apart!
If you love him it wont matter:]
good luck
xx-sami
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): i think that as long as you dont do anything illegal or something you may regret later then go for it. however take into consideration his matrity level before entering a full time relationship as you could get hurt by being more emotionally involved. Boys will be Boys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): When it comes to maturity, a person doesn't go to sleep one evening a child and wake up the following morning an adult, instead people mature over periods of time in their life.
A boy at 16 could be incredibly immature, but he could also be particularly mature. My guess is that this boy must be relatively mature to be able to relate with you so is it really a problem that in terms of physical years that he is a couple younger than you?
You could just as easily date someone who is 10 years older but who has the maturity of only 16 yr old! Do you see how it is an individuals maturity that has more relevance?
I think you would be far more comfortable about this relationship if you can judge his maturity on his own actions, rather than just his physical age. If you can do that, I think you'll have nothing stopping you.
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reader, sweeite +, writes (22 August 2007):
hi there,
age gapa aint really as bad as people make it out to be, i say that you should wait till he reaches 16 as he will be at the rite age any ways it wont be that bad say when your 24 and his 22 it wont be as bad i say wait for him to reach 16 and you to can be happy and wont have to worry about anything and anyone.
good luck babe.
xxx
im older than my boyfriend but were still happy.
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reader, askmother +, writes (22 August 2007):
You both do sound as though you have a lot of feelings for each other. What you need to be careful of is mistaking these feelings for lust as opposed to love. Do you love each other because you both feel as though you cannot have each other? This is often the case with relationships whereby forbidden relationships seem very appealing as it is more exciting.
I do not think a two year age gap is such a big deal when you are older, but the concern i have here is that one of you is only 15. Under no circumstances should you instigate a sexual relationship until he attains the age of 16 as this could leave you open to alsorts of problems and could even get you into trouble with the police. A two year age gap is more noticeable when you are younger as you are both still developing as individuals and adults and you are trying to suss out the adult world. I am not saying this relationship will not work as it has for many people before today, that i am sure of but you need to tread carefully and make sure neither of you take things too quickly.
Personally i think you have already answered yourself, you open your question with 'he is only a child'. This you really do need to bear in mind and I am sure there are plenty of people your own age that you could have friendships and relationships with.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok
thank you :)
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 August 2007):
 A two year age gap in a relationship is not very big atal. I would however wait till he reaches the age of 16 before you persue anything with him. Age gaps always sound like alot when you are younger, but in a couple of years time, like say when you are 22 and he is 20 its hardly even noticable.
Good luck x
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 basically theres a two year gap... thats really no big deal.
most 17 yo i know would date a 15 yo.
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