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writes:okay so ive been dating this guy for about three months and really like him a lot. we both have had our hearts broken in the past. he handled his break by sleeping around and what not, for him its been a year and a half, im the first girl hes wanted more than just sex from and has had feelings for since his brake up. last night he alomst tols me he loved me. i could just tell it was coming.. i know im falling in love with him but ive been hurt so badly in the past im terrified to actuaclly be in love. im not sure im ready to tell him and all though hes scared to hes just about ready to drop the l word. i cant even say that i love him out loud to myself. its so scary. i want to love him like ive never been hurt but its so hard because i have been hurt. and i know that i do indeed love him. soooo much!! but im confused and nervous. what should i do when he says that he loves me? Reply to this Question
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reader, all i need +, writes (4 May 2008):
all i need is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you!!!
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reader, Rhian2020  +, writes (4 May 2008):
Hello,
I'm sorry that you've been hurt in the past. I can sort of understand how you feel. I broke up with my fiance last year and I'm absolutely terrified of going on a date with a guy!! I'm too scared to get close to another guy. It's great that you've both got each other. I know that you say that you do love him but you're afraid of telling him. Could this be that you're still too upset about being hurt and haven't completely come to terms with it. If you're nervous about telling him that you love him then maybe you're not quite ready to tell him. After all, 3 months is not a long time to be with someone. Maybe you should take things a little slower and enjoy the time you spend together without the heavy emotional stuff. When he does say that he loves you, if you feel that you want to say it back without feeling scared then great. But if you're still too scared to say it back then just explain to him that you really really like him and love being with him but your not quite ready to say the same. If he genuinely loves you then he will totally understand.
Good luck.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): hi i know how you fell i think you should just take some time out and be clam and give him a chance he might not be like the other guys.....you know he said he would give up sleeping around and thats a big thing to give up (for a guy) so i hope i helped and i hope it turns out good x
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