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*ennylynn1974
writes:I would really like some answers on why my boyfriend of over a year, constantly thinks that I am seeing someone behind his back or talking to someone, when I have never given him any reason to think those things. Reply to this Question
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reader, tinystar  +, writes (11 August 2008):
This is clearly your boyfriends issue not yours. Why should you be expected to justify and explain yourself to someone that does not trust you? Maybe your b/f has experienced betrayal in the past, but honestly who has not? Yes some may say if you love him enough you will be able to work through this, but if he loved you enough he would be trying to work through why he feels so much doubt about you. Some people are not ready to trust and you may not feel this relationship should come to a close for this reason. Yet it can be much fun and life is too short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): Only he knows why. Maybe he had someone cheat on him in the past, maybe his father cheated on his mother. There could be any amount of reasons, and without any more info than you've given it's very difficult to say.
The best way to find out would be to ask him. If he can't accept what you're telling him then maybe it's time you DID find someone else. If you're going to get accused of it you might as well do it! You might like to put that suggestion to him - maybe he'll come to his senses then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): Saleem, to your answer... I have the same problem as jenny and all your advice, i do do. I tell him how much i love him and dont want to be with any other guy. And I spend most of my time with him, i dont hang out with anyone else. Everything you said, i do. but nothing changes and he thinks hes getting played because i talked to a guy at work about work stuff, or tried to find someone to work for me, that was a guy. and the problem which makes it worse, is he was cheated on in past relationship... what do i do?
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reader, NoProblem +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Many males and females have this problem to think something is going on with someone else and their partner behind their back when there is nothing going on at all. My advice is to confront your partner and ask him why he thinks this. Also realtionships are based around honesty. Try to talk to your partner and maybe you will find out why he is like this. Good luck.
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reader, Saleem  +, writes (10 August 2008):
hi,
I must admit that i used to be kinda like that.
an age would be helpful in why he may be acting this way as many young guys do have insecurities and its not a completely bad thing.
the fact that he is concerned means that he like you very much or perhaps loves you.
afer a year and you not giving him any reasons is hard to understand but i guess you can still forget that and do what you must.
I guess when he accuses you, you can reassure him that he is the only man you are with and wanna be with. you can show him you love him by doing nice things for him, spend as much time as you can with him etc. I know this will show me that my gf wants me..also its great sometimes to hear my gf say that she loves me very very much and she doesnt know what she will do without me and that im the only man she wants and she doesnt want anyone else but me..
hope this helps.
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