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writes: I just wanted to ask...if anyone has ever left their partner for another and had it work out fine and been together for a long time? Cos all this gossipping and doubt from other people is making me paranoid. I left my boyfriend (of 3 1/2 years) for another guy who is absolutely amazing, and made me realise how I want to be treated in a relationship, he is sooo sweet, sensitive, caring and mature! My ex was great, but not really those things, we just had a laugh together and got on really well, but I had felt something was missing and meeting the new guy really made me realise what that was. We have been together for 2 months now and are infatuated with each other, and planning the future together. But I can see in my friends eyes the doubt just because I was with him straight after breaking up with my ex...and my ex has made comments like he feels sorry for my new guy, and that he feels embarassed for me. Do they have a point? Am I being deluded? Do these things never work out? I know I dont have anything to prove to anyone, but really I wondered if there were any success stories of girls (or guys) leaving their partners for another and it working out fine? Should I have left a 'grieving' time, even though I didn't really feel I needed one or should I just be happy going with my feelings?
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reader, justaguy999  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 I wouldn't listen to half the stuff you hear. Several months ago I left my previous girlfriend of 2 months for another girl that I had liked for a long time before the relationship. Things were very confusing as we both gave each other the wrong signals and ideas and so I ended up going out with someone I wasn't sure of. It wasn't a bad relationship, but 2 months later I ended up kissing this other girl I liked. I broke up with my girlfriend for the new relationship, not something I am proud of but no one can change the past. I have now been going out with this girl for over a year and we are extremley happy together.
Hope everything works out for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): I have never been in that situation but I think that you're right saying that it's only up to you and what you feel on this thing. Be careful though, I think 2 months is still way too early to judge your new relationship, give it a few more months and concentrate on whom you're with now not on with whom you have been. I bet a few more months will help you decide better...good luck!
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