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writes: I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago, and I'm trying really hard not to look at his myspace because everytime I look he has new girls and new comments, etc. Well, I was doing good for about a week, but then I just looked a few minutes ago and now I want to throw up. He is 34 and he had a comment under one of his pictures of himself "cutie" by some 15 year old girl that he claims had a crush on him before we went out last year. I am 24, but she is 15! Does anyone else find this disturbing?! I know my cousins that are 15 and 17 wouldn't dream of flirting with a guy that is balding! Yuck! Anyway, right before I broke up with him I deleted this girls number from his phone which I know is wrong, but I was sick of him texting back and forth with a few 13 and 15 year old girls. Some of the girls would say things like how they missed their big bro. Does anyone think this is wrong? Please, someone help me! I feel like I'm either going to throw up or go crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): A 34-year-old guy going below the 18-20yo level with girls is kinda gross, yes.
(Well, at least that's what we all tell the man or the older woman. But if it's the younger girl asking the question then suddenly it's fine and she should go for it.)
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 Quote "He also said that the 16 year old's younger sister who is like 13 sat on his lap at bar. What?!"
Hun he is scum, put him out of your ife. If you are at all concerned that he may have got these girls into underage sex, then get some proof and report him. but otherwise you just HAVE to cut him out of your life. like a tumour, you wouldnt keep a tumour in a jar and look a it every so often would you?
You take care hun, cut him off, dont look at his myspace, report him to myspace if you want, but dont look at it anymore.
Give yourself room to breath and heel.
Above all concentrate on you, not this scumbag.
*hugs* Issy xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): I remember this case when you posted it a couple of months ago and it's very weird. I think he feels such a loser he enjoys and craves the attention of these airheads. Does he has problems with his parents also? Because often guys who have had problems with their parents tend to welcome attention from anyone and everyone. My ex was like that. It's like an emotional sickness. You should try to gain control over your mind and just resist temptation to see his myspace profile. It's been months since I did it and I've never had the need to see my ex's profile. That's what he wants. He knew I was very jealous of his female friends and that's why he tried to hurt me placing an ugly strange mexican idiot in his top friend instead of me. I tell you I have never looked again and never ever will look into his account for as long as I shall live.
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reader, love-him +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Babe if they fancied him and he chose you over them, this is all you need to think of. You and him are finished now, so dont worry about him, delete everything to do with him, and every time you try to go on his myspace, just think to yourself what it will do to you. I hope i helped you, Feel free to mail me about anything :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I knew that the girl who called him a cutie (who's actually 16 I think) had a crush on him before we went out. Anyway, the texts I've seen from the girls (who are like 16) say things like how they miss him, and "who is your girl" and that he is their "Big Bro." But, I can remember him saying things to me like how he cuddled with one of them-but said he was just joking to make me mad. Why would you kid about sick things like that? He also said that the 16 year old's younger sister who is like 13 sat on his lap at bar. What?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): You are finished with him so why are you even bothered with what he gets up to? Dont go into his stuff and look at him, move on and you will feel better in the long run. Rise above it and be better than him, you deserve better and someone will come along.
take care
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 I definately agree with you on this one. He has no business engaging in a relationship of any kind with a minor. I could understand if these girls were his family or people he mentored, but this doesnt sound like that at all. What is he doing associating with these young girls? Most men I know talk to women that are of age. There is an age difference between 24 and 34 but you two are adults, I can understand that. What in the world does he have to say to a 13 year old? Nothing! He shouldnt be talking to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): and NO you are not wrong to think that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): wow this is confusing.... but then again i don't think he is being a "big bro" figure, then again maybe he is. there is not really any solid proof or maybe it is but your haven't mentioned it on here? do you have any proof of him flirting with any of these young girls? or any texts or messages that reveal that? if so, i think you should approach him and tell him how inappropriate this is. it is up to you if you want to tell authority or not. but if these are young girls around the age of 13 then i think it would be a good idea b/c he could take advantage of them; however, you need solid proof and you need to confront him before you do anything because what you are saying could be a "Big bro" "Father figure" friend or a "molesting" issue. think through before you do anything, and analyze more until you find better evidence.
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (22 November 2007):
Hi Anon. Fist of all you need to stop Looking at his myspace, for your own sanity if nothing else ok?
Secondly, this sounds dangerous. It could easily be leading on the track to child pornography, rape, underage sex, and a whole host of other things. These girls are all below the age of consent. If you are rally concerned this may happen, you should be able to report him to myspace who should investigate then delete his account, if he should open another account with them they will monitor him.
If you have any reason to suspect he has actually had intecourse with any of these girls, you will first need proof, then I strongly suggest you report him to the authorities. Unfortunately I do not know which country you are writing from, so I cannot suggest any other avenues at present, however if it was my daughter this man was chatting with, I would be furious!
If these girls were only messaging him on myspace it wouldnt be so bad, you know how teens can be online. But you stated you had to delete a phone number from his phone of one of these girls, so its not just online fun. its a lot more serious.
If any of the other aunts have more advice to add, this does appear very important!!!
Take care hun, and please please STOP looking at his myspace xxxxxxxxx
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