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*7ArmyGirlfriend17
writes: My boyfriend is 23 (24 at the end of october) and i will be 16 in less than a month. I just recently told my mom about the slightly large age gap and she was not really impressed. I have no idea how im going to tell my dad cause i know he will freak out. Is there a good way to go about telling him? Also, what are somethings i could tell them to possibly help them accept the age gap? I am positive that i love this guy to death. He is my best friend and i have been with him for a year and a half.
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reader, 07ArmyGirlfriend17 +, writes (31 August 2010):
07ArmyGirlfriend17 is verified as being by the original poster of the question well we're all gonna talk tonight...so we'll see how it goes. my dad use to be a MP so maybe that'll help, like you said haha but thank you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Ah, even better your dad has to respect the fact that he's a soldier serving our country...that outta lighten the blow some. Good luck on your LDR and I'm a military wife, so do know what you're getting into with him..being a military wife/girlfriend isn't easy but it does have it's rewards.
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reader, 07ArmyGirlfriend17 +, writes (30 August 2010):
07ArmyGirlfriend17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni wish i could introduce them, but he is unfortunately over in iraq, making it all even more difficult.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 I am afraid that it is predictable that your dad will freak out- I'd say it's healthy and normal. Honestly, who would not freak out- thinking that you two got togethre when you were 14 and he was 22. In many places that would be a crime, but even where it's legal- it's pretty disturbing. A 22 yers old guy who checks out just out of puberty girls ?...Uhm. Shady character by definition.
Of course, like in every aspect of life, there are exceptions and I hope yours is one.
If you feel sure this is the case, maybe you can use your mother ,that was not shocked about this relationship, as ambassador to convey the news to your dad. And ( if your dad does not get a heart attack right away ) you may offer him to introduce your boyfriend to him, so that he can see
in person that ( hopefully ) everything is OK and he is gonna treat you right.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
It depends what state you live in, the age of consent ranges from 14-18..so you have to watch out for the potential of statutory rape. You can tell them age is just a number, it's only a 7 year gap which isn't that bad, if there is anyone else in your family with age gaps I would point that out as well, and for them to trust your judgement on this. My dad never really liked any of my boyfriends (especially if your a daddy's girl), it's hard for the parents to swallow their princess bringing home a boy no one will every be good enough for you, and if were up to them they would rather you wait to get married till your 30. Just make sure the gun case is locked when your boyfriend comes over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): Tbh, that guy's pretty irresponsible to be dating you with an age gap like that and your parents are right to be uninpressed. Dating much older lads, bad idea.
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