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*rook_e_boo
writes:im in a relation ship with this guy. He is a sweet guy for the most part but 2 things he always wants me to send him a nude pic and i really don't mind that much but he is always asking and the second reson is he wants so talk dirty over text all the time and im not really a dirty girl.how can i fix these problems whithout hurting him?
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (22 May 2010):
Brook_e_boo is verified as being by the original poster of the question i broke up with that boy because he kept insisting that i would send him stuff. i am very happy of the advise i scored every one all point things. thank you everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): This is very dangerous, especially at your age. DO NOT ever send these kinds of pics once they are out there, they are available FOREVER. I know at your age you think who ever you send them to will never use them against you but there are millions of stories where the pictures were sent to other people after the couple broke up or when the boyfriend wanted to hurt the girl. Long term, when you go to get a job your employer may very well find these pictures online, I am an employer who DOES check the internet to see who I'm hiring so remember that whatever you put out there can be seen by anyone. Just explain to your boyfriend that this is not something you are willing to do and if he is really worth it he'll understand and it won't be a problem. If he gets upset then dump him because he doesn't respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): My boyfriend was the same when I first met him, he wanted me to talk dirty over texts and msn etc. Wanted me to send him pictures of me in my bra and my boobs and stuff. He knew I was a shy girl but he still wanted me to do it and it didn't help that his ex did that stuff with him so I think he just expected me to.
I just told him in the end that I wasn't like that, I didn't want to do it so I didn't. I'm still with him and he never asks me now he just does it himself. I've never even got naked for him during sex because I'm very shy and he's very understanding about it.
Just tell him how you feel, tell him you're not like that at all and don't want to. If he doesn't like it then forget him he's not worth it! He should be understanding and appreciate who you are and how you feel.
All the best.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 March 2010):
Tell him straight that you won't do it. Any guy who pressures you into doing something you don't want to do is not worth your time. So if he's acting like this, think very carefully about whether or not you should be with him. Don't stand for this treatment. If you don't want to do it, don't.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Hun, you are going to have to explain to him that you are not sending nude pics of yourself and you dont talk dirty. That is just who you are and you are not going to change.
Sendind nude pics is not a good idea - if someone else had to get hold of the pics - you could find your pics posted onto the internet.
As much as you say this guy is sweet, dont be forced into doing anything that you are not comfortable about, and you obviously are not comfortable about his requests.
If he breaks up with you because you wont comply with his requests, well then you know for sure that he was not really the nice guy you thought he was.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 He's horny and he wants an outlet. Tell him you are not ready to talk about these things yet you are still young. So the masturbating is his private business, he should not give you the burden of releasing his sexual tension.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): hi sweetie my advice for you is to tell him the truth saying like that it's little too much for you or that your not a big fan of it and it's sort of making you uncomfortable and doing the nice way and he will understand but if he continues like....asking you to talk dirty..??then he's might be dating you for wrong reason but the same time i dunno how long you guys was dating but if you was dating for short period of time then yes he's using you for the wrong reason.i hope this help you and have a nice day =)
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