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female
age
41-50,
*opeful Romantic
writes:My boyfriend seems to ignore me when we are around his friends. When we are around my friends he treats me exactly the way I want to be treated, but when we are around his friends, I feel so ignored.I get jealous when I see his friends showing their girlfriends attention; with their arms wrapped around each other. Me on the other hand am sitting there just HOPING he will reach out and touch my hand for just a second, but no... he's so wrapped up in his friends, I am mostly ignored. Sure, he will sometimes say a word or two here and there, but most of the time, I feel so alone... just hoping it's not noticable to everyone else. I have tried talking to him about this in the past, but I don't believe it worked becuase we hung out with his friends again this weekend and I was ignored again. Should I try to talk to him about it one more time? I have heard of other guys being this way, so I am trying to tell myself it has nothing to do with me, he's just a typical guy. It is not because I am ugly or anything, I get told by people all the time that I am pretty. I also know that I am not mean, I try very hard to please him, so I don't know what it is... does anyone have any advice?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 Hi,
first and foremost this is really easy.
when your boyfriend ignores you, you get up ring a taxi and go home , no goodbyes no nothing. Or ring a girlfriend see what she's doing, then tell your boyfriend on your way out that you are going to see **** and you will see him later. Do this until he realises that if he is going to treat you as if you are not there then you will literally disappear.
It looks like you are just sitting there and taking it at the moment, so he can see no reason to change. Guys who get round in groups can be very clicky , anyone (including girlfriends) are often left on the side. But he is being very insensitive and will only wise up if you take action. Otherwise expect more of the same.
good luck
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (5 February 2008):
Hopeful Romantic is verified as being by the original poster of the question Then what would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): its typical for assholes who make the entire gender look bad. im sorry he does that, as far as what to do, i don't know what to tell you
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