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writes:my mum has recently started suffering from depression, and its getting me down too.I live with just my mum, dad and younger sister.all three work except me because im expecting a baby soon as im 20 weeks pregnant.My mum is taking some time off work due to her depression and cant really do anything around the house, so im having to do everything. After waking in the morning i have breakfast, clean the kitchen and wash pots, hoover and mop, make lunch for everyone when my dad and sister come home for a break, then clean after them, do the washing, clean the bathroom then when they finish work i cook the dinner and yet again clean after them, and before iv finished im so tired and worn down that i have to go to bed early and its like this every day. I know its not helping the baby or me But every time i ask my dad or sister for help they point blank refuse because they work. They dont work past 5pm every day and say that when they get home theyre too tired to do help out, yet im too tired myself from what i do through the day, i wouldnt normally get this tired but i am pregnant so im finding it harder to carry on doing.I need some advice because i feel im stuck in a huge rut!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): I am 8 months pregnant, and doing regular housework is a struggle for me. I get totally out of breath, and I need breaks. SO you need to figure this out before it gets worse on you. Also, who said you couldn't work? I worked on my feet all day when I was pregnant with my last baby up until my due date. You could get an easy job like as a cashier..that way you can use the same excuse that you work so you don't have to clean..
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hey, I suggest you make a roster maybe, even it out a little bit and make it fairer, if they continue to refuse to clean then just dont do their stuff, put it to one side, clear your mess and stuff, mop and hoover like once or twice a week and if they moan about it tell them it's their mess, you have a pregnant belly to look after besides them. Also another thing you could do is something i learnt with depression...it may help with your mother. DO SOMETHING.even if its cleaning your shoes, just do it and set a routine, so maybe like asking your mum to dry the pots as you wash them, make her smile and knw your there for her and get her more involved with the pregnancy too and give her something to look forward to it should help her.Also if you desire maybe plan on moving out? Then you're looking after only yourself and your child. its easy to do that in the UK if your a pregnant or a mother. (plus you could threaten the family with this and maybe it might work to make them get off their backsides)Good bless you and your baby, have a good life and feel free to message me with any other suggestions on depression or ideas =D and let us know how it goes! x
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