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writes: Say a guy mislead you and you ended up losing your virginity to him which was a big deal to you. You haven't experienced those sorts of feelings over a guy before a believe them to be love when in fact it was just confusion. You carry on seeing him because you like him but eventually he basically just tosses you aside and gets back with an ex girlfriend.That's what happened to me. Now he's come crawling back to me, trying to get in my pants and acting like he likes me. Maybe the grass isn't greener with her. who knows? I really want to hurt him because he deserves it and it's taking me a long time to try and get over what happened. He wants to see me next weekend and i told him i'd think about it. I want to give him the impression that i really like him and lead him on then make him feel like an idiot. I was thinking of either:A) Leading him on when we're at his place and when he really wants me suddenly getting up and walking out. He'll then keep texting/calling but i'll delete his number and ignore him. He hates being ignored.B) Actually go through with it, sleep with him then as soon as it's over act really cold, get dressed and leave then just say "seeya" like i don't care. I want to make him feel like an idiot for once.I don't care if it sounds petty and "moving on" isn't the best revenge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): I have been watching your post, am proud of you, well done!! I believe you did the right thing for what it's worth!
I'm sure when you meet someone nice, when you are ready, you will probably cringe about how you felt about him!
Best wishes to you for 2012, have a blast!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe text me asking to see me and i told him i was busy. I have deleted his number.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 OP, you have received execellent advice already and I hope it will be enough to make you stick to your resolution to adopt plan A, and move on forever to a happier furure.
I'd just like to recommend you to at least TRY owning your actions and taking responsibility for having created this situation- now you don't - you are blaming him for everything and this keeps you stuck ,disempowered in the victim mentality, vainly struggling with unworkable ides of revenge.
But, revenge for what, actually ? For not having had your best interest at heart ? That was YOUR responsibility and you neglected it.
You were NOT in a relationship with this guy, he was not your fiancee' or bf, he had not promised you anything or offered exclusivity. It was a fling, and he made no misteries about it. He told you that he was NOT going to want you for a relationship ( whether the distance was just an excuse or a valid reason ). You both were busy for 3 months, during which he got in touch with other girls, and decided that he liked one of them better than you. What's so strange about it?, and , pardon me, but... what's so horrible ?
That was the deal. Clear cut. If you were not OK with it , you should have said so.You pretend you are on the same page about carrying on as usual..., you misrepresent your true feelings and expectations, - then HE is the bad guy misleading you ?...
I am saying this not to make you feel bad about yourself- just to show how too often we seek " revenge " on others for what was a dumb mistake WE did. A bit like when a child bumps her head against a table and cries all upset " bad, bad table ! " No point in seeking revenge against tables . MUCH better learn to navigate your way safely and stay away from sharp edges.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Good luck caller, be strong.... yes, I know how hard it is to turn a guy away when he's chasing you and you have strong feelings..... but I also know that giving him what he wants will devastate you and cause you so much pain.As my girlfriends tried to tell me, when a guy like that keeps bothering you.... DELETE, DELETE, DELETE!!It will get easier, I promise you this.... Blessings, and make 2012 your year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): I wish you the all the best OP. There is nothing easy about your situation.
It's very easy for me to sit here and talk the way I have been, quite brutally at points too. But I know your pain all too well. I've done both the A and B options. My B lasted far too long and took me a long time to get over. I hit the point of despair you are at now, many, may times during that time as I'm sure you have but it was all my own fault for not taking each and every one of those and doing the right thing by myself which was letting go. When I finally was able to let go that's how I realized all the stuff I've been saying.
It really wasn't about that girl, she was just taking what she could get and I was giving it to her.
I was so obsessed with the injustice of her being able to do that kind of thing and seemingly get away with it that I completely lost sight of what was important, me. It was never about her, it was always about me and nothing happened that I didn't either want to happen or let happen, so in the end it was all my fault. She was who she is and to be honest that's her life and as long as I'm no longer part of it then I really don't care what she does with it. I don't care whether she's a broken down heroin addicted prostitute or a rich actress on top of the world ad happy as hell.
I'm the most important person to me and I have to do what's right for me when things aren't going well. When things are going bad for me it's time to forget everyone else and come up with a plan to fix that.
The absolute hardest part of this for you will be not responding to him. He knows how to push your buttons, so you cannot allow him to do that. Delete him, if he drives down again, don't answer your door. Channel this rage into a complete blackout and you will win. As hard as it is to do it's the easiest solution too. You just never ever speak to him again, 2012 this doesn't even know you exist anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not a horrible person believe it or not. Last year i was completely different, before any of this happened. The person who said he brings out the worst in me is correct and i hate being and feeling like this.
I want to move on. The last time i tried he drove to my house and begged me not to end it. He makes me feel guilty when i confront him about his behaviour.
I never thought i'd be so naive and get sucked in by somebody like him. I'd been a virgin until i was 22 and i haven't been with any other guy's since.
"A. You walk away, you delete this guy from your life. You ignore phone calls, block him on facebook, completely cut him off. Then you can sit back and watch as his texts get a bit more panicky and angry and enjoy getting your own back that way. Quick, relatively painless, done and dusted. You can keep your head held high, put this down as a lesson learned and move on quick."
I think i'm going to go with that option and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): "How can i move on knowing that he's happy, she's happy because she's either thick or just oblivious and i'm depressed and pissed off?"
How can you possibly know that? Do you think he has any idea how you're feeling right now? No, because he's not a mind reader and you're probably very careful not to show it. The same as we all do OP him too.
Look, you're the one who'll get hurt here. His relationship obviously isn't all that great if he's looking to cheat. She has nothing to do with this OP so stop blaming her and she too is a victim because her boyfriend is trying to bag another girl on the side, how the hell is she happy? and what has she ever done wrong to you? In the future you'll see she was your saviour because she's taken the pain of actually being this assholes girlfriend, she's in for a world pain isn't she, because you can bet your ass he'll find some other sap when you eventually cop on and walk away.
You're just not getting this, this isn't about them. It's about you, you came here for advice. You're the one looking for a solution to your pain, well we are all telling you this is not it. You really are the only one who is going to suffer badly here, he won't give a fuck, he'll get to bone you, get to have you and then throw you away when he's done.
So lets weigh up your options once more.
A. You walk away, you delete this guy from your life. You ignore phone calls, block him on facebook, completely cut him off. Then you can sit back and watch as his texts get a bit more panicky and angry and enjoy getting your own back that way. Quick, relatively painless, done and dusted. You can keep your head held high, put this down as a lesson learned and move on quick.
B. You stay in contact, you let him keep pressuring you for sex, you let him keep sweet talking you. You get more and more bitter, angry and depressed not only at him but on yourself for not having the strength to let go. You grow so angry and bitter that eventually lose all faith in being a good person who does good things and deserves good things. You begin distrust and dislike men in general and you make it so it's very hard to trust even good guys in the future because you let yourself get ruined over one guy who doesn't deserve it.
Very easy choice if you ask me.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 January 2012):
Sorry just saw your follow up...
Your depressed and fed up, because your wasting time thinking about this man. Before you and him broke up, because as you said "you were too busy" for him. What happened to being busy.
You choose to be angry, you choose to talk to him on facebook, you choose to spend all your time thinking about him, you choose to text/telephone him, you choose to meet him, even though he finished with you and now has a girlfriend. That's why your unhappy and he is not. He does better things with his time. He finds himself a girlfriend, he goes out, he does things, he sets goals. You can't hurt him, stuck at home, thinking of stupid things like revenge. Get out there with your girlfriends, find a hobby, flirt with other guys... Do anything but sit there crying over your lost virginity and a stupid cheating guy.
He's not all to blame... for 3months you were too busy for him (he was busy too) He lives far away and said he couldn't do the long distance thing... If you loved him so much, why didn't you move to be near him? If you didn't want to break up, why did you agree to be "just friends".... Wait a second... "He lives miles away and when we talked about having a relationship he said even though we liked each other it wouldn't work because of the distance." So you weren't even having a relationship, you were just a girl he had sex with anytime he was in town.
Lady you sound very young and very silly... before you start crying and thinking that your life is bad, look at how you behave, look at the choices you make, look at how you react to things, look at how you are living you life and make a promise that in 2012, you will try to change.
NOBODY, NO HIM, NOT THE WORLD, NOT KARMA OR FATE OWES YOU ANYTHING.... The situation your in, you helped caused, and trying to gain vengeance will end up hurting only person, and that person is you.
He's got happy life, because he knows how to remake the world to suit himself, he doesn't sit there and cry and worry about other people. Go find something useful to do with your time. This man, this memory will be gone in no time at all.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 January 2012):
"At first he promised he'd never cheat on her and that he only wanted to be friends and i believed him but then the other night he admitted that he still thought about me in "that way" and if we couldn't handle being friends then an "affair could be fun"." (anonymous woman between 21-25years)
Again, this makes no sense... if he likes you enough to fuck you behind her back, how come he doesn't like you enough to dump her and make you his full time girlfriend? That's men for you... girlfriend in one town, available shag in another.. your gonna sleep with him and he'll have two girls loving him.... Nice work if you can get it....
Sad really.. from virgin with morals, to hard hearted back-stabbing "It's just sex" woman. He must be good if you'd consider letting him use you again. It's not even a FWB (friends with benefits) He's not your friend, he's looking for a girl who can keep her mouth shut and give him sex when he asks. This is more a "I screw you because I hate you" and for him "I screw her because she's dying for sex and my girlfriend won't find out"... Sad really, sometimes this creates the best sex ever, but you always wake up in the morning with a bad taste in your mouth, hating yourself for a very long time. You can't even be sure you'll see him again, it's easy to dump the facebook girl you shag because she'll let you.
Anyway, your life, your decision. We can only tell you what we think, you listen or you don't, you are the one who will have to live in your shoes. Don't forget to update your post and tell us your final decision, I'm sure I'm not the only one who is dying to find out how things turn out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't even want to sleep with him i'm just so pissed off that he's gotten away with it and i'm the one feeling miserable. How can i move on knowing that he's happy, she's happy because she's either thick or just oblivious and i'm depressed and pissed off? Please don't give me that Karma crap because guys like him always get away with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): Fair enough then OP. Go do it. Why are you here asking for advice then? So you can find out the best way to fuck someone else over? No chance.
I do really hope you come back and let us know how that all worked out for you in the next couple of months.
You see we all see what you're thinking and what you're trying to do. You're bitter, angry and frustrated because you want him and you know in your heart you will never have him in the way that you want him and you're also very angry at yourself for liking such a douchebag in the first place.
So I say go do B) and do it without protection too so you can ensnare him with a baby, that'll work and sure if you're going to be a bad girl then you may aswell be jeremy kyle bad right? So go have sex with his father and as many of his relatives as possible, I mean they're just pictures on facebook too. You care so little about other people you may aswell just go crazy on it. That'll make you happy right? All of this is definitely going to make you a happier person isn't it? Yeah, right.
Good luck again OP. You have a long painful road ahead of you, really. You're going to crash and burn bad after this, and if you were in any way nice before this whole mess you'll lose all self respect after it. Because you're his fuck puppet, his toy and giving him all this emotion and sleeping with him is going to have no positive influence on your life at all.
So yeah, go be petty then. Start down this long road of no trust, lies, cheating and ruining your chances with the majority of the good guys around who aren't stupid enough to date girls that care so little about others and actively go about destroying their lives. Because OP, once you start this there really is no going back.
Most of my male and female friends view girls with your attitude having done the things you're proposing as nothing but good for sex. No one with sense is going to trust a lying, cheating, selfish, manipulator. Which you're not, but you will be after this. Happy new year.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (1 January 2012):
Question, OP: how exactly will this benefit you?
Like Cerberus said, basically all you'll be doing is giving him exactly what he wants, which is sex. He won't care if you go cold on him afterwards; he got what he wanted. And leading up to the act only to leave him then won't work because you won't leave. You'll stay and go for plan B, which is a bad plan to say the least.
This guy brings out the worst in you, so instead of focusing your attention on him you might as well find someone else who is more worthy of your time.
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reader, kittyplz +, writes (1 January 2012):
 i say A because he is hoping that b work out
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): If you want "revenge" of some sort there are better ways to try to do this which won't end up harming you more.
Tell his ex gf that he is trying to start a relationship with you again. That would probably be the best thing you could do. You should also tell her how he used you and misled you, if she is a good person at all she will be less than pleased about that.
Other than that there is not much you can do except to realize over time that he is a disturbed person who feels powerless in some way, that's why he treats people this way in the first place.
Just be glad that you didn't really love him it would feel much worse if you did. Don't let his poison become a part of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not an idiot and yes it is bad that he's still with her. Maybe if i knew her it would effect me more but to me she's just a picture on Facebook. Before this happened i was always the "nice" girl and would have never thought i was capable of something like this but i'm sick of doing the "right thing" when it never benefits me. I don't owe her anything he's the one dating her not me and he's the one who pursued me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): I don't see how what you've said has changed anything here OP except make him look even worse and make you potentially a huge idiot.
I mean come on "an affair might be fun"? What part of that says to you "I care about you, I can be trusted, I'm a nice person." None of it right? And what part of this is making you look like the woman scorned? None of it either, you're actively engaged in a semi-sordid emotional affair with him already, he's been hinting at liking you, putting out the feelers to see if you'd be stupid enough to be his fuck toy and you really think that continuing on this kind of shit with another woman's guy, one who has lied to you over and over, one who just happened to be too busy with work etc. Is in any way a good idea?
Well he wasn't too busy to get back with his girlfriend, or if I misread that keep his relationship with her going.
He's kept you ticking over on facebook and now he's starting to make the moves into making you his sex fool. You see you say you want to lead him on and then just dump him, but you've already been leading him on or he wouldn't have felt it was okay to ask you to be his side-pussy. You may not have been aware of what he was up to, it may not have been deliberate on your part but here you are, in the middle of playing this game with this guy. I feel no sympathy for you here because you played your part in this and now you're actually talking about having sex with another girls guy. So it's not just him that doesn't give a shit, it's you.
She deserves better than the way, you and he are going behind her back and treating her, so you know what? Do it. Do this with him and be exactly like him, you should have run a mile as soon as you suspected he was after something else. He's a creep, a liar and cheat and you're his willing accomplice. I feel sorry for his girlfriend, you and he deserve each other if you ask me because you have no right to feel aggrieved in this situation as you helped cause it and even now you have the chance to walk away but you want to be a manipulative, cheating, liar just to get back at him. Sorry OP but you can't cry foul in this unless you completely get rid of him, otherwise you're just the female version of him.
Good luck OP. Life is a lot easier when you treat others with dignity, respect and kindness but you'd rather be petty and punish this other girl aswell as yourself for the shit this guy did. Well that's enough advice for you OP I reserve my advice for the people are willing to do the right thing, I will never help a person actively fuck over another person the way you are talking and no, I'm not talking about him, there's a 3rd person in this equation you seem to feel no empathy for whatsoever.
Have a nice new year, hopefully this year you may put common sense and feelings of others over you're own petty little games. Maybe this year you'll learn to stay the hell away from guys who are spoken for and maybe you might even find a nice guy of your own. Somehow I doubt it though because you want what you want it doesn't matter who you hurt or you wouldn't have even given any of this a second thought you would have walked away.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 January 2012):
 Chalk this up to a valuable experience, wherein you've learned that guys will do just about ANYTHING to get a girl to put out..... (There are some guys who will not "walk on broken glass or burning gas".... but they're the exception....)
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSince it ended we've spoken on Facebook a lot and met up but nothing happened. He's hinted at not wanting to just be friends when we've met up before but it's only recently that he's admitted everything.
At first he promised he'd never cheat on her and that he only wanted to be friends and i believed him but then the other night he admitted that he still thought about me in "that way" and if we couldn't handle being friends then an "affair could be fun".
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's still with his girlfriend. When i said he "tossed me aside" what happened was we basically didn't see each other for about 3 months because we were both busy and during that time he got back together with her. He lives miles away and when we talked about having a relationship he said even though we liked each other it wouldn't work because of the distance. I told him i was ok with just carrying on as we were (i wasn't) so that's how it stayed until it ended.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (1 January 2012):
Nope, leading him on and then refusing to sleep with him won't do anything... he's already got a girlfriend remember, and if you won't, many will... he'll laugh at you and he'll think your stupid.You can't hurt guys like that, they can always find sex somewhere. The only way to hurt him, if he was to love and worship you.But it's your choice.. don't understand your story much... you say you don't love him, but you gave him your virginity. You say it wasn't love it was just confusion. He tossed you away, but you still talk to him. Now you say your thinking of getting intimate, leading him on or even having sex, and this is only because of revenge.Your life, but I think you'll sleep with the guy and continue to let him treat you like crap because he's the one you want. Make all the excuses you want, your just trying to find a decent excuse to end back in bed with him as soon as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): Let me ask you OP, if you know that he hates to be ignored, you know that it will hurt him, then why are the only solutions you're willing to consider involve you spending time with him? Do you not see an issue with that? You see you're still far too attached OP, part of you still wants to be with him and spend time with him or you would just walk away and hurt him that way. You're the one who can't let go here OP and that means the things you plan will not work the way you think they will.
Do you not see how this could backfire for you? Every plan you come up with involves continuing to be with him and be in his company. Why? Why do you so badly just want to be in his company like that? You can get revenge by never talking to him again, you know it hurts him but something in you can't let go and that means you will get way more hurt if you don't let go, but you'd prefer to play this game instead.
Well good luck with that OP. At least do yourself a favour and talk to your friends, sit back and think to yourself what you would advise a friend who so hung up on a guy who doesn't give a fuck about her to so. You'd want that friend to run a mile wouldn't you? Honestly. The listen to your head OP and ignore the bitterness and pain. What action here will protect you the most, help you get over this quicker and allow to be happy sooner? Do what's sensible, not what you're heart keeps urging you to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): "You don't think leading him on then turning him down (not sleeping with him) would bother him?"
I know it won't OP, because that would require him to have real feelings for you. What part of his actions (ignore his lies for a second) tell you that he has feelings for you. You don't pick someone up and throw them away if you like or even have a small bit of respect for them. I don't care if he's come crawling back, that's most likely because his ex kicked him to the curb again or it just didn't work out, not because he suddenly had a romantic epiphany that "you're the one" if you were the one he wouldn't have ditched you.
Honestly OP take it from a guy who's been there and done that. You like him a hell of a lot more than he likes you, that means you're more likely going to be the one that gets urt if you try this. Not only that OP but these "punishment" girls I've slept with. All thought the exact same thing as you, they all thought that they could just go to my place, be in an intimate setting and they all were stupid enough to think they could control their feelings and not get carried away. All of them failed. You see it's easy to sit there and plan but when he's there holding you, telling you what you want to hear and feeding your feelings it's a very different story.
It's the over confident girls that really believe they can play a player are the ones who get the most hurt.
Honestly OP he won't give a fuck, because you will open your legs to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou don't think leading him on then turning him down (not sleeping with him) would bother him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): Hahahahaha How naive you are.
A) Go for it, it will teach you an important lesson about being used. You see he used you OP and you're proposing to let him use you more in the hope that you can give him a taste of his own medicine? How is that supposed to work with a guy who really doesn't care about you? I say do it. Just so you see how much worse you feel after you realize yet again you were the one being played, not him because you're the one with feelings and he just wants pussy. His actions have told you that, you know deep down that's what it is and you still think you can one up him? God no, he'll just shag you, drop you and you'll end up in a worse place that you are now.
You won't get up and leave his place when you get there, you'll get suckered in by his charm like you have done already otherwise you would have just walked away but you just want him so badly to be part of your life that you're willing to let him ruin yours.
If he hates being ignored then just fucking ignore him now? Completely and utterly ignore for good. Why are you thinking of putting yourself back in the firing line where you will succumb to your feelings instead of ditching the prick right now?
B) Yeah go for it, see if he cares. You know how many girls that I've used have come back to give me "punishment" sex? A lot because I've used a lot of girls and the best thing ever is when they come back and give you sex because they want to punish you because again you win. You know? I only wanted sex and they come back and think they can hurt me by giving it to me? hahahaha. It's awesome, it truly is and they then become even angrier and more upset with themselves when they realize that they played right into my pants yet again.
Moving on isn't the best revenge? Oh and I suppose giving the guy what he wants is? That's hilarious, it truly is. Giving a guy sex and then making it easy for him to not bother with you by going cold is the best idea I've ever heard, very logical indeed and as a guy who's been "punished" lots of times I say go for it. It feels really good to have that kind of power over a woman, the power that they will do something as stupid as think dropping their knickers for us will in some way upset us. It's brilliant.
So please go do it, then come back here and tell us how your master plan worked out for you hehe. I want to be able to bookmark this question for future reference with girls who may be thinking of this so I can show them that moving on is the best revenge. We don't just say that for the hell of it OP, it's really hurtful to us guys to lose that power over a girl or to be thrown away so easily. You see when a girl moves on it's a massive hit to our egos, not only do we lose a source of sex but we lose that thing inside you that makes you keep going back to him, that power we have over you when taken away is a bitch, it makes us frustrated and makes us feel like failures because obviously a girl who can drop us like that and never talk to us again mustn't think we're all that special and that can be a massive hit to take.
But of course your idea is better isn't it? Give him what he wants instead, put yourself back into the position where you'll be the one to get hurt and get used yet again. You can't lose really OP because if you go about doing either A) or B) it will be humiliation and pain that you will never forget and hopefully that pain will teach you the true value of moving on because obviously you think giving a user the sex he wants is a great idea.
Hilarious!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): I would meet up with him. Be pleasant, warm and appealing but quietly say at some point 'sorry, you blew it'. Leave it at that. Best revenge is quiet and delivered with dignity.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (1 January 2012):
Well in your place I would be angry as hell too, but if you go along with this will you be any better than him? What will you gain from this, other than more bitterness?
Both options sound bad to me, the latter being a recipe for disaster. If you sleep with him (as in the most intimate act you can share with someone) and then toss him away how will you feel? Won't you feel like you degraded yourself?
If it were me I'd meet up with him, tell him to his face what exactly you think of him and the way he treated you and really make sure he knows how much he hurt you and what a loser he really is. Then tell him that the reason you're telling him this is because out of the two of you, you're the decent and genuine person and you won't lower yourself to his level. And that you hope he may learn from this so not all of his future girlfriends will feel like crap dating him. Then pay for your coffee and leave.
Getting back at someone, for me, has always had to do with pride. I want to be able to do thing and keep my pride intact. Options A and B do not allow this. I want to always make sure that what I do is in line with my morals and values and that I don't lower myself to the level of an idiot to attain my goals. If you don't feel the same about this, then go ahead with your plan. Just don't be surprised when you come out more miserable than you went in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): You are obviously still very angry and hurt, that is normal. Seeking revenge is not the answer though.
Two wrongs, don't make a right. I believe in Karma, and what goes around comes around. If he is not a very nice person, he will get his comeuppance one day.
If you do either of these things, you are just as bad as him. Yeah you might feeling better initially, but not long term. Isn't it enough for you that he's come crawling back? If you don't want him?
I don't think you are over him actually...
Perhaps you should just ignore him, relationships shouldn't be tit for tat, sometimes people make mistakes, no-one is perfect. I think you should stay single till you heal over him properly (when you are not seeking revenge/wishing him bad, you will know you are over him). Perhaps when you are ready to meet someone else better, you will see things happen for a reason...
Take care, go buy a punch bag or something, or hit the gym to get that anger out!!x
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