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*unshine2
writes: Hi, Im having a problem or should i say a crisis in my relationship with my boyfriend of 6 months. Our relationship has been kinda rocky for about a month now and i don't know what to do. Im really stressed and i feel so alone in this whole thing. Everytime i try to talk to my bf about something he tells me he doesnt want to talk about it or he gets mad. One of the biggest problems is one that i have with his relationship between him and his bestfriend. They are really close and he chooses him over me a couple of times. Now his bestfriend has just opened up a strip club and my boyfriend his helping him set up. I understand that he is helping but i feel like once this place opens in a week or so, that my bf will always be at this strip club and i feel very very uncomfortable. I trust him but i really don't like the idea of this and i don't know how to get over it. Its like one of the worst things that could happen in a relationship. A strip club that his bestfriend owns and its stuck right in the middle of the problem. I try to tell him that Im uncomfortable and he doesn't seem to care. Help what do I do? What do I say to him when i talk to him 2nite and how do i make him understand how it makes me feel. How do i get over the whole him being at a strip club thingHELP HELP HELP. iM going to have a break down!!!
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (24 January 2007):
 Hi Sunshine2
Your bf is being a friend OK I understand that but your relationship is so young that his loyalty is not with you and I sorry to say that but if after only 6 months you are having problems then the outlook is not good in my opinion.
All of your problems started before he was helping his friend I believe from your question, is that right?
I think you have to ask yourself whether this whole relationship is worth it.
If you are miserable then what is the point.
When you start out in a relationship it is like the honeymoon period for some time and that is no longer there.
If your bf is not even prepared to listen or talk to you then you should move on and tell him that you do not feel like he is bothered about your relationship and you do not want to continue being unhappy.
Life is for enjoyment not sitting around alone and miserable.
Get your support from your family and friends and end this relationship before it pulls you down so low.
Unless your bf is prepared to work at it then why should you be the one who is stressed and going out of your mind.
You are worth so much more and he should understand that.
Keep telling yourself that there is a man out there who would treat you like a princess and not a doormat who is not listened to.
OK I appreciate the fact that this is a busy time for him but talking costs nothing and 5 or 10 minutes to put your mind at rest will not stop him from helping his friend.
He obviously feels guilty or his feelings have changed as the fact of the matter is that he does not want to talk about it with you.
Stay strong and positive and don't feel alone as we all have friends and family and they are there for us when we need them, don't shut them out let them help you through this time.
BTW you are never alone when there are loads of agony aunts and uncles on here to help you through this.
You are a beautiful young woman who has her whole life ahead of her so hold your head up high and take your life in your own hands and think of how you want your life to be not how it is right now OK
Take care and I am here for you OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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