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writes: When is it looked on as acceptable to love someone? People always tend to think that you only love someone truley if you've been with them for ages? What do all of you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (30 December 2005):
 Love has no time restriction nor does it have any boundries!
If you wake up in the mornign and he is the first on your mind and when you go to bed if he is the last thought on your mind, then it may be love! When you miss him and he is in the next room, then it may be love! When you can sit in silence and still hear every words coming from his heart then it may be love!
Love happens when you least expect it!
My boyfriend at the moment was never supposed to turn into my boyfriend, we were friends with benefits!
We went out one night and i couldn't stand the thought of him with someone else, I couldn't stand the fact that he wasn't mine! And that all happened in one night! Now i love him more than you know! My parents think that i'm not being moral because he used to like my sister and that he is younger than i am, and the fact that he has a repution doesn't make it easier!
There is no better way to get to know someone than finding out things about them and falling in love with the small things, Love is a Journey, explore it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): I'm in the same situation! I'm 17 and my b/f and I have only just started going out. After telling me how he felt he said he loved me from the moment he saw me - I was a bit weird about it thinking it might be a ploy to get me to sleep with him but you know sometimes people find someone they really connect with and love at first sight really is possible - I must admit I love my b/f and have since the moment I saw him. Thats what I think - there's no such thing as too soon.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (30 December 2005):
 The longer your experience with love is in your own life, the longer you're going to tend to think you have to have been with someone before you can be sure it's Love, and not just lust.
For my two cents, I don't think that "love at first sight" exists, nor its close cousin, "We just met last month and we're so in love!" When people say they're in love after just weeks together, it generally means that the chemistry is flowing, and there's a large sexual attraction, but anything beyond that you can't really be sure of. Certainly "lust at first sight" is real and people often confuse the two feelings.
To really, truly love someone, you have to know them inside and out. You have to have been with them long enough to know their feelings about other people, about what they say behind the backs of people they don't like, know how they treat kids and animals, have seen them when they're drowning in self-pity, have helped them through tragedy, had arguments, and discussions, met the people they call their friends, travelled with them and been intimate, both sexually and emotionally. That's a long list, and it isn't something you can do, or learn, in a month or two!
For that reason, I tend to think that any relationship newer than approximately a year is still the getting-to-know-you, we-really-like-each-other phase.
Not that there is a single thing wrong with the early months of any relationship. In fact, they're great! The feeling is wonderful, but a person has to be aware that that dizzy, giddy, "butterflies" feeling is just a biological imperative, to ensure that you mate and reproduce. It's not the same as love.
FWIW. My opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): You can start to love somebody at any time. I know people that have been sure their relationship was going nowhere after a few months and then suddenly fall in love. If you feel like your in love and nobody is excepting it then let them see how you act around eachother and how much you really care about eachother. All that matters is how you feel, live your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2005): I would say what love, real love cannot be defined by time it is just something that is, I personally believe in love at first sight!!! I think that depending on who you talk to you may get a very different definition of what love is!! So if you think/feel like you love someone then you love them and thats that regardless of length of time or age or any other barrier society chooses to create!!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (30 December 2005):
 I fell in love with someone based on just one hug. Ive known him for 5 yrs as a distant friend. Then he gave me this hug out of the blue, and I have not been able to get him off my mind. I have not told him how I feel,though I spend time with him and see him quite often. I think love hits you when you least expect it, and if it is true love, it stays with you. Thats when I feel you know it is love. I dont know if I believe in love at first sight, maybe lust at first sight, but not love. I feel you have to know that person to truly be in love them, but there is no set amount of time that it takes. I feel that love is patience, and it gives you the feeling of completeness with someone.
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