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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I recently rekindled with this guy I met once several years ago. I ran into him at a party and there was definite chemistry and the night ended with a sexual encounter in the stairwell. We agreed to meet up later that week. I sent him a text the next day telling him I had a fun time with him and he responded that he did too and that we should get together that weekend. Well come weekend I sent him a text and never got a response...I texted him two more times over the course of the weekend before giving up. It's been over a week since I heard from him--should I try reaching out to him or just give up? I don't want to seem desperate. Also we both made it clear that we are just looking for a casual thing--nothing serious.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 June 2014):
 I have to say I wouldn't be surprised if he has a GF already and as much as he enjoyed himself with you in the stairwell, he isn't looking to end his relationship over some sex.
I'd stop texting and delete his number. Because... I can easily see this guy giving you a booty call or two, when in your neck of the woods or drunk and horny.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 June 2014):
 Interesting theory , CMMP. But if you were right , then ONS ( ONE night stands ) would not even exist- they do, instead. So yes, it also happens , and not too seldom, alas, that people are happy enough with the performance, YET they do not want an encore...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 June 2014):
Grrrrr, it really bugs me when people rudely criticize other people for having casual sex by saying "he got what he wants so he'll never contact you again."
This is total bullshit. Do guys want sex once and then never want it again? Is that how it works? I don't think so. If you want a no strings encounter once you'll probably want to call the next time you're horny. Unless... Maybe he's seeing someone already?
Maybe he has a girlfriend or a fuck buddy already? Maybe you were a one time thing because he doesn't need casual sex. Although, don't be surprised if he calls you drunk and asks to meet up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2014): Yeah it's time to give up, OP. He's giving you the coward's brush off. Probably complaining to his friends that you won't get the hint.
On the bright side though he'll probably stick one in you again if he sees you out while drunk, but that's all you're going to get. He's not even interested in a casual fling with you or he'd have text you back.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (27 June 2014):
Give up. If it was supposed to be as casual as you say, you have already sent 3 texts too many.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2014): Do you really need us to answer? He wanted sex you gave him it easily, why should he bother contracting you again he got what he wanted. Next time don't yourself that easily, guys don't need to feel a connection to have sex, my mother used to say, "no one is going to want to buy the whole ice cream truck if your giving the cones out for free" and she's right, your not a challenge to him now, your easy to him so why should he put the effort in? Not trying to be harsh respect yourself more and men will treat u with respect, not use u for a quicky.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (27 June 2014):
 He got what he wanted, now cant be bothered to give you the time of day.
Mark
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