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writes:oh goodness where do i start??well we had been seeing each other for 5 months now and exactly on the 5 month mark which was friday i felt that it needed to end. Gosh there were soo many reasons...he didnt want a relationship so then i waited for him...then he would do and say things that would hurt me and it was like he didnt care..his attitude changed completely but it was like he didnt think about ending our relationship? friendship? whatever it was...anyway...so he dropeed me off friday night n we were in the car at the front of my house, we spoke then i got quite upset and so just got up and left so i could fight back tears. As soon as he took off i tried to regain myself but i culdnt so i msgd him n blahblahblah it was me just saying that maybe we shuld end it...anyway we were talking via messages n he did say sorry but then he said something to upset me so i replied bak n he never did...so i just sent him a msg ending it..only due to my emotions being at an all time high and i was soo angry/upset. We spoke very little on saturday n again he didnt reply bak even when we were having a conversation. So i messaged him today..(monday) saying.."So how come you never replied to my msg? Even if it is over i didnt mean to cut off all communication. Id still like to be friends atleast..."again no reply..well not yet anyway and im so upset..still in hysterics because he was the only guy whom i let in thinking that yeah he wanted me too. I was so blind to the fact that he could just turn around and reject me n now that this has happened i have no idea how to act...think or feel...except im starting to feel a little depressed. I need advice because im not sure what to do? Shall i just completely leave it? but how?? ive deleted his number n some days im fine the next im not.i just cant believe that the one time i felt this was actually different and for real...it turned out to be complete opposite and he had the nerve to say.."i didnt lead you on. I did want something but then i dunno other times i didnt." How the hell is that not leading someone on???please help me im just sooo upset n cant stop crying! :( thanks x
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 This guy is immature and doesn't have a clue what he wants sweetheart! You have seriously had a lucky escape! I know you wont see that right now.
Everyone has to meet a bozo at some point, we all have to have our turn! Hopefully this was your only one, and you will have learnt enough now to go a bit slower.
This guy doesn't feel he led you on because at points he probably did want something serious. Next minute though, he didn't. He is a child.
You are well off out of it.
Time is the only thing that is going to help you, delete his number and spend some time working on you, and going out again and socialising with friends.
C XXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Sorry to hear this is getting you so down. This is going to sound heartless, but your pain is a little self-inflicted. My only advice is to have the maturity not to say things that you do not truly mean and dont send texts just with the intention of 'dropping a bomb' and expecting guys to come running back because you've cried wolf. These things back-fire just like they have in your case. You felt betrayed and upset because you hadn't thought of the possibility of him ending things, but if he was saying things to upset you, and being hot and cold, did you not realise that maybe he was not quite as involved as you were? Could it be that he is more interested in a friendship 'with benefits'? I would give it a while and see how you feel. Alternatively, take the bull by the horns, call him and apologise and explain why you reacted the way you did. Just be ready to go back to a half-hearted relationship, that's all.Best of luck!
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