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writes:Whenever my bf doesnt reply to my text messages within an hour I freak out and assume that he mustnt like me anymore or wants to break up.I dont know if this feeling is rational or not. He used to text me 24/7 and he would always reply pretty fast. But now he takes a long time to reply. I understand he has a life and has other things to do then just text message me, but sometimes ill text him at times i know hes not busy and he still takes forever. Am i overeacting or not?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Then you will need to have a chat with him. It would be near on impossible for anyone on here to be able to say why your guy has slowed down on txt.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for all your replies but I think some of you have assumed things that arent right, maybe i wasnt very clear in what i wrote.
I dont smother him in texts or suffocate him. If he doesnt reply, i dont send 10 messages saying "where are you? why arent you replying? dont you love me anymore?" etc....no thats not me...thats what he actually used to do to me in the early days. But hes stoped that now and is the complete opposite. He used to do that to me and has now stoped. I am lucky to get one message from him once every 2nd day. On average ill send him one text each day or two and if i dont get a reply then i wont try again until he replies... I never spoke to him about how he would text me 24/7 and how it was somewhat annoying so i dont think thats the reason he stoped.
Like I said in my original messgae i understand people can be busy at times so they might not reply straight away. or they might not carry there phone with them everywhere etc which is alot of what you suggested. but the thing is, arent people usualy the type to carry there phone everywhere or not? in this case my bf usualy does. so i just think its odd...
if you consider his past behaviour to the new, something has changed and i dont feel it can just be a typical 'he left his phone in side' scenario, as why would this happen for weeks constantly when he never did that before?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 I think you are over the top on this one as well. I for one never answer a text simply because I can't see the damn teeny tiny letters on the keys.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Me again!
I broke up with a guy just recently, and one of the reasons was ~ because I didn't reply straight away at times when he text me. I had perfectly good reasons too, but he was that insecure he was asking me who I was with?When was the last time I had sex? Had I met someone else? Did I not want to be with him anymore? And so on. He drove me insane, and it's a real 'put off'.
One reason was, I forgot to take my phone out, the other, I was in the bath or shower, another time I was driving, and one time I was actually at a funeral!
So it does sound to me like you are feeling a touch insecure.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 August 2008):
This is quite over the top. I think its called post traumatic dating disorder, seriously! It was in the paper a few weeks ago. But you're on a self destruct route to wrecking the relationship, and sending yourself completely insane in the process. You have some big insecurity issues inside.
I dated a guy that used to call me asking what i was doing if i didn't reply to his txt quick enough.
Very suffocating.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Heyy.
My Boyfriiend Hardly ever replys to my messages.
Dont worry about it he is probably just busy with something or left his mobile somewhere and went to do something and forgot about it.
if you still have concerns confront him about it, but in a a funny way try and make a sorta joke outta it or he might think your sujesting something else. [if you no what i mean].
Hope it helps.
Take Care.
Princess_Glamm
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): I quite often don't reply to my boyfriends texts for AGES. The reason being I don't carry my mobile around the house with me! I will leave it upstairs then go downstairs for a few hours and forget, when I come back theres a message. Oops!! So many explanations. I wouldnt worry about it.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (18 August 2008):
Oh babe, I think you're getting a little paranoid, and the more you worry about it the worse it's going to feel, then all sorts of things will be going on in your head.
Try and stop your worrying, it's sounding like you're not trusting him, and that's not right. Unless of course you have another reason not to trust him.
There could be a perfectly good explanation as to why he doesn't reply straight away. Could it be that he can't get a signal, his battery is flat or even not have any credit?
If it's bothering you so much, then just ask him, but he may not like it if you do ~ 'coz then that's when the trust issue will arise and you could be opening up a messy can of worms.
I'm sure every thing's okay.
You take care now.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): this is totally irrational, my boyfriend used to do this to me and send me tonnes of texts if i couldn't reply, and due to this sort of clingyness it was the main reasons i split with him ,so please don't let that happen to you and stop overreacting. It's really annoying being smothered in texts.
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reader, kw +, writes (18 August 2008):
hi,wow,i thought i was the only one with this problem! my boyf used to text me frequently but now he doesnt txt me back much at all!! he is really busy with work so that cud be the problem. maybe ur boyf doesnt feel like he has to txt u bk so quickly,maybe wiv u txtin him alot he mite wish for u not to txt so much,i dont know its jusrt a thought! perhaps have a word with him.maybe u are slightly over reacting,just let him know how u feel :) he probably hasnt even realised he takes ages txting back!! hope this helps :) x
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