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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for over 5 years. I thought we were in the same place when it came to marriage, but it seems we may not be. He says he doesn't know if he sees me in his future because I don't have a job and have a lot of medical issues at this time in my life. A part of me also wonders if it is because 2 years ago I cheated on him. There was a time when he said he loved me and did want me in his future, but now he takes everything day to day and goes with the flow. My gut tells me that it might be time to end this if he isn't in it for the long run. I am 25 and don't want to waste my good years on someone who doesn't feel the same way I do. Any thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): i bet as soon as you leave he'll come back saying "i'm sorry I made a mistake" lol
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 mmmmm.... well what do you want from him if he says that you 2 don't have a future together?staying with him will just make things worse and it will make it harder for you to leave!
and you said it yourself that he doesn't feel the way! so comon i know it's hard for you but do it and get out...for your own good...
good luck!
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reader, Straight Up1  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 I think by what you say... he has answered your question for you. He doesn't see your future together.doesnt really matter if it's a job, or medical, or because you cheated, or anything else for reasons. You deserve to have what you want out of a relationship as does he!!looks like its time for him to put up or shut up... I am never a fan of giving people an ultimatum...so make your decision based on what you know. A few casual hints never hurt anyone along the way!! Hahaa!!
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reader, Ah-ha  +, writes (1 September 2008):
Hello there, I'd say end it. It sounds like this relationship has run it's course and that's ok. It happens. Walk away and start afresh. If he says you're not a part of his future that really says it all doesn't it? If you don't split up today, it's going to happen eventually. As you said yourself, don't waste your time on this anymore.-A
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reader, twisted +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Oh my God! Of course you need to leave, and like ASAP! He doesn't see you in his future anymore after 5 years???? When is the future going to arrive? Tomorrow? A month from now? A year? And then what happens to you when he's ready to move on to greener pastures? Sweetheart, you know the answer to this! Don't be afraid like most of us and stay with someone who doesn't deserve you when there are so many people looking for someone like you to be in their lives...for good.
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