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writes:i am in a long distance relationship and have been for over a year, we see each other twice a month 3 to 4 days at a time, he has called me every night since we met. My problem is just last week he began putting photos in his family album and I saw that he included a picture of him and his ex with friends plus an old news article of her. Should I ask him about this? This bothers me a lot. He says I am the only one for him and that he loves me but if I'm so great why does feel the need to put mementos in his family album of her. He divorced this ex because she lost hundreds of thousands of dollars in gambling plus she stole money from his business, he didnt divorce her because he didnt love her, she did to him, hes still friends with her, I dont get it. They have been divorced for 6 years. is he still in love with her and wont admit it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Well...6 years is a long time. They have history and if they are still friends I guess he is just using the pics as his personal history.Men and women think different about such things I guess.My own boyfriend of 2 months whom I see twice a week - He has a frame on his wall which spells out 'I LOVE DAD' there are pics of his ex his stepdaughter and his son in the O which is in the shape of a heart. I hadn't noticed it - he pointed out saying look, that's my ex there look so I could put a face to the name. I asked why he had that but he said it is for his son who lives there half the week. Now years ago - I would have had an immature strop lol and demanded he took it down..but now I am 40 and getting on, I can understand the reason she is on his wall.If you put things into perspective then you may understand and as he has said - you are the one for him, that is sweet.Don't worry and enjoy your time together. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): dirtball is on theball, i just had the same fight with my long distance girl regarding some photos of my ex in my facebook. I told her that she is the only one i love and that my ex is just some memorys that i like to keep and remind me of the past which were good times, it has nothing to do with wanting to be back with my ex LOL for god sake no, i would rather be dead, but honestly, i also like how i look in the foto haha so that could be also one reason! Not sure abot the aricle but i would think he is fond of memorys, and nothing more. Dont let it get to you!
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (8 October 2010):
 dirtball makes great sense, at first I thought maybe an ex girlfriend it was odd but once you mentioned 'ex wife' I understood where he is coming from.
My dad and mom have been divorced for four years. They are still great friends. My dad just got all our home videos made into DVDs and was watching them with his present girlfriend. She didn't make a fuss about this, btw my mother is in the videos more then my father , for he is the one with the camera usually, and instead of getting jealous about his past and the life he shared with my mom, she enjoyed being introduced to his past, what he used to have, what he went through, what us kids looked like when we were little, the trips and experiences he had.
Its completely different when it comes to an ex spouse because when you marry someone they become your family, yes you get divorced but they will be family in a person's heart. My parents were married 20 years so its a lot easier to say that in my situation. But be more understanding and remember that its just memories of his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): i wouldnt worry at all, its his past, he says he loves you and that your the only one for him, how nice is that, i would not let it bother you, i am in a LDR and last time i was up i noticed some photo albulms on the side board but i didnt say any thing, he thought it was time to show me pics from his past pics of his daughter at her christening and there was the ex as well, he dont have anything to do with her she is well out of the picture, but she is the oppisite to me, but i dont let it bother me its his past, hes with me now, and thats what counts, like it does with you and your fella, hes with you hes YOUR MAN AND YOUR HIS WOMEN, as for still friends with his ex, i am still friends with my ex dont see him often cause he moved to another town,cause i have a daughter to him as well, but he left me cause he thought the grass was greener found out it wasnt but thats another story in the past, but i have a friendship bond with him last time i took his daughter to see him he was talking about the women in his life and it just didnt bother me one bit he was actually asking for my advice on whwt to do LOL.. but i never think i am gonna go back to him that will never happen, cause i am with my lovely man my LDR love of my life, so dont worry too much but if its on your mind talk to him i am sure he will understand and probably just say its the past, when i think of it have a photo frame with a load of pics of my daughter and her dad and me and his friends up on the wall and dont even think about it, my LDR man has never complained about it, but he wont casue he knows its the past, and he knows the pic frame with the pics in is more up for my daughter who likes to look at it now and again, so try not to let it bother you and think HE HIS WITH YOU NOW,
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reader, dirtball +, writes (8 October 2010):
 She was his wife. That album is about his past and present. Like it or not she's part of his history. He will likely always love her in some way, but he knows that they aren't meant to be together. You should not be threatened by this at all. It is natural. I have keepsakes and momentos from past relationships too, but it doesn't mean I want to be back with them. I value my history and they are a part of it.
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