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writes:I have been on 3 dates with this reserved man ,but have known him for 1 year .The dates went very well ,but lately he asked me if i wanted to go away for the week ,i said yes and then he changed his mind and said we should go back to being friends and meeting up every now and then .So i asked him why he changed his mind ,he said he was moving to fast and shouldn't have asked that .Also i told him i liked him and asked him if he wanted to be more than friends ,he said i was a really great person and said he had feelings for me .I am confused by him ,does he really like me ,or is he messing me about ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mariab +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Only HE can answer your question. It seems to me that this guy is not over something. He seems scared to commit. You have told him how you feel so now back up and let him make up his mind but also its wise not to wait too long for the decision to come!!
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Hi,I don't know if he's messing with you, but he's not being honest with you. You know him 1 year, during that year only 3 dates? He asked you to go away, then changed his mind? Answer: wants go take things slowly? Well, it's very slow already. He's not honest, I don't blame you for being confused. He said wants go be friends only, but have feelings for you? Either you are friends only, or have romantic feelings. What he's saying doesn't make sense. I don't like woman that pushes man, but in this case you deserve to know and have answers. I don't want you to think this has anything to do with you. I think he has some past experiences that made him insecure about commitments, being in a relationship, who knows? After 1 year, I think it's time to decide if you are just buddy friends, or if this could led to a relationship, and a future together. You said he's a nice guy? If he's not ready for commitment you should continue being just friends, and you should start going out on dates. You cannot wait forever, and I am sure you want to meet someone, be in a relationship, and be happy. After all, you deserve to be happy. Good luck
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