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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I just found out that my current boyfriend who has been suffering from depression and unemployment hit an exgirlfriend (a few years ago) of his multiple times, 'for no reason'. I've asked him if he's ever raised his hand to another woman and he's sworn to me that he never has and got upset with me for asking him again and for telling him that I would not stay with a man who hit women.The individual who told me said that he/she was scared of my boyfriend and begged me not to say that I heard it from him/her. And then it is almost as though I am being dishonest by knowing and not telling him that I know this...Next step? Tell him that I know he has hit other women? He's hit me in the face once and that was unacceptable and we broke up and got back together and he has not again....Confused about how to approach this, PLEASE advise...
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Listen to CaringGuy - do not stay in this relationship, he will only continue to hit and abuse you...trust me, you'll be much better in the long run!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2010): He has hit you in the face once and yet he says he has never hit a woman??? You don't need the other girl to testify that he has hit a woman....HE HIT YOU...therefore he is also a blatant liar because he knows that you know that he has hit you.
Get out now before you are so attached to him that you can't leave. An abuser, is an abuser, who will abuse. Men either are or they aren't..there's no in-between.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 February 2010):
You don't tell him a thing. You leave. You now know what is coming if you stay. You will end up dead or very injured. Leave.
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reader, CAPSLOCKMOFO +, writes (21 February 2010):
First of all you need to ask yourself why your boyfriend's ex is giving you this information. Is she really concerned about your welfare or is she a jealous ex that broke up on bad terms?
I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and if we swear on something we're being completely honest. If you doubt your boyfriend's promises because a jealous ex has mentioned something that may or may not be true, there might be trust issues between you.
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