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*utterfliesarefree
writes:Last friday my ex mm broke nc again I was firm and told him where to go - even rejecting his calls after which he texted me "ouch no need for that" I was v proud of myself I had NEVER rejected a call from him before after this he bega bombarding me with texts telling me how much he wanted me etc and like a idiot I took the bait and gradually came round to him.I told him over text (he lives 50 miles away) how I felt over everything he told me things would be different but even already today I've texted him twice and heard nothing which is when I've just noticed he's only getting in touch late at night. I'm starting to think he's got a new number but still using his old one to contact me with - his w had found texts from me before I feel like such a idiot (again) for falling for his crap (again). I just feel like I'm making the same mistake over and over and esp as its getting close to the holidays I do not want another year of this crap I feel like just going nc but am I expected to tell him or should I just try and go nc again? I alwa send a "goodbye text" which he never replies to and then a few wks later we're back on again so I don't think he takes it seriously anywayPlease help me I just want to get over him I know there is no magic cure but I genuinely feel like I need him around my self esteem/confidence is at a all time low
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reader, bluecow +, writes (18 December 2011):
 If your serious about going no contact... Then get a new phone and DO NOT transfer his number over. Call your phone provider and block his number incoming and outgoing. Shred your old phone and some, and block his number at home. Block him on facebook (and wherever else he is).
Sorry for not giving a more in-depth reply, will do.so when I get home x
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reader, bluecow +, writes (18 December 2011):
If your serious about going no contact... Then get a new phone and DO NOT transfer his number over. Call your phone provider and block his number incoming and outgoing. Shred your old phone and some, and block his number at home. Block him on facebook (and wherever else he is).
Sorry for not giving a more in-depth reply, will do.so when I get home x
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 He's a married man! Of course your self-esteem is at an all-time low, because you'll never be anything to him but a dirty little secret he hides from his wife. You're the bit of sex on the side, and you should STAY no contact for good. Don't even text him "goodbye". Just change YOUR phone number and drop him!
Remember, he's not your "ex", because he was never yours to begin with. There's contact because you're leaving the door open for it. Change your phone number. You live 50 miles away so there's no reason you need to be anywhere he is. You're being wishy-washy. I know you're proud that you refused a call from him, but you're still leaving the door open.
Fill your energy and time with something new. New hobby, new activity, and most importantly, new people to meet. Cut this guy off from having the ability to contact you. If you're on his Facebook or Twitter or any other social network, DELETE and BLOCK. Block his email address and take no more texts from him. Stop Googling him to see what he's up to.
If you're serious, you'll truly make yourself inaccessible to him. Until you do, you'll be going through this indefinitely.
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