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writes:My ex and i split about 2 months ago and recently we decided that we should meet up because we both felt ready. We ended up getting on really well and he was ringing me all the time and told me he still loved me. However he has a new girlfriend who he works with in America and he has just gone back out there for 3 months! He still rings me but i don't know where I stand or what to do! help! Reply to this Question
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reader, PumpkinNiki  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Don't let him play the "girlfriend per country" game! Think about it.....you two are ex's for a reason! And if he does expect something out of you while he has another girlfriend.....don't put it past him to think of someone else while he's with you! You would be better off moving on! Try looking at your situation from a third party perspective. Even if all you do is find some random person, that doesn't even know you or him, and type away about your situation, sit back, go over it as if someone wrote it to you! I do this and I usually find my own answers better and quicker than the people I type it to! And if you still can't come up with a solution.....the person you wrote to usually will help guide you in the right direction!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Let him know you'll remain friends with him but he has another woman in his life just now and it's not fair on her that he's contacting you so often, wish him well with his girlfriend and let him see there's no jealousy there with you (even if there is slightly) but keep in control and get out there and meet new people. If you still love him and he's right for you, you'll get together. If he's not... then you'll know that too, with time.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): heather is so right.
just move on. keep in contact by all means, but move on. he is obviously a bit confused fair enough but that does not mean he wants you back.. you may just be a 'comfort blanket' something to fall back on.
like heather said your young and the worlds your oyster, lifes too short, keep him as a contact for u when you need someone to fall back on. turn the cards around... YOU be in control.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Given your age, I would personally find someone else, You`ve got your whole life ahead of you! I can`t tell you what to do, I can only advise, but I would move on. I`m sure you`ve got friends, who it would be good to go out with; and friends sometimes lead to more friends! And sometimes going out with your friends may lead to something more; I don`t mean to get your hopes up, but my sister was at a low ebb, & went out with her friends for the evening, and met a very nice man, who is now my brother-in-law! I am not encouraging you to look for another boyfriend, just letting you know that whatever you choose, you never can be sure at just what`s around the corner. The "world is your oyster". With Love, Heather.
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