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writes:I'm a 13 year old girl. I really need advice. This boy who is in my class has been flirting with me for a while now since school started. and then he does gross, inapropriate stuff around me with words or physical contact. Ive held this in for 4 months and i told my mom and we talked to the princible. i told her what he did and she wrote it down. the next day i stayed home when she talked to him. he is supsended for 3 days now. and when i went to school on monday this girl in my class says stuff like he hates you now and its all your fault. and then she says he said that he liked me. now i feel like i did the wrong thing. do you think he hates me and did i do the right thing?
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reader, hello1  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 You did the right thing, you should not feel sorry, he should! Don't feel bad about what you did, I'm sure any other girl would have done the same. Also you sent out a good message to this boy that he can't treat girls in this way. Don't feel guilty or say sorry! be proud
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reader, aftamath96 +, writes (16 January 2008):
I think you did the right thing, and wether he liked you then and hates you now dont matter. The most important thing is that all the things he was doing to make you unhappy are now in the open, and the people who are their to protect you can do their job.
Dont worry about what people at school say or do, things happen and things blow over thats life!!! The most important thing is that you feel happier now,and that this boy isnt gonna do things that are inapropriate.
All the best and i hope all gets better real soon...But your real young and it will blow over...chin up. and be strong YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!!!
Gaz
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reader, mmg05  +, writes (16 January 2008):
You are never wrong defending yourself. and if you feel bad it is ok. just evaluate the situation. try looking at the situation from the other persons' eyes.If you feel like you were right ignore all the things that other people say because they do not know the hole situation but if you feel like you were wrong after doing all that then do you best to apologize because that is all you can do in the end.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 well i dont think you were wrong, if this guy was making you feel uncomfortable and unsafe then you were right to say something. as for him liking you, there are more appropraite ways to go about that!! dont mind wat others say to you, you felt unsafe, so you reported it. if you want to find out more about his feelings etc, talk to him - not in school but somewhere else where you can tell him wat he did to make you feel you needed to tell someone. i hope this helps hun, stick by your decision, if you wanna talk just email me xxx
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Honey, if he was doing inappropriate stuff, you and your mom were right. You're 13, so it could have just been messing on and joking but you shouldn't stand for it! Sweetie, you did the right thing. End of. =] x Tell your friends what's been going on and they'll stand by you. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): You did the right thing if he is harassing you, you shouldn't have to put with it.
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