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writes:hello, i want to tell you all my story. i was with this guy for a while and we got pretty serious, we got as far as fingering. and he gave me this look that stopped my heart. i fell in love with him. he said he loved me. life was perfect. but then he didnt txt me back for 2 days. and when he did, he wanted to know if i wanted to split up with him for 4 months during school and then get back together again. i didnt understand this. he said the reason for it is because he is not ready for a long term relationship. So, today we broke up. and i thought i was gunna be ok. but then after we talked about it more, i dont know if we are going to get back together after a while... im heartbroken. So my question is, how do you think i can get him back? or make him see that he is everything to me? Please help, i would use all the help i can get.
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reader, dangerouslove. +, writes (2 July 2008):
 I bet it feels like you just lost the love of your life right? Wake up wishing it was all a dream kind of heart ache. Been there, done that girl. Trust me it passes. Go out and be with your friends, do things that make you happy. Being depressed until the early hours of the morning are not helping you out any! Just talk to him and tell him how you feel, say that you really like him. Then, you know what you do? Give him his space. Don't text him, call him, or talk to him. Play hard to get, it's possible he could come chasing straight after you. If thats not the case, move on! Your still young. So many guys out there trust me, it's very unlikely that you'll meet the "one" at your age. Just feels that way, I know.
Good luck!
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (2 July 2008):
to be honest sweetie if he doesnt want to be with you during school terms then when does he want to be with you. he doesnt want to commit or he doesnt want anyone to know that you guys are together. whats the point of that, if he cant show you of to his friends in school then hes not serius about you. he seems like he wants the best of both worlds and is keeping his options open. he knows that after the 4 months no matter what happens your gonna be there why let him have that control over you. recently i was in a similar position and the best thing to do is leave him to his game, no guy is worth that much heartache...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): You need to find out the reason he ended it. I don't personally believe it was because he wasn't ready for a long term relationship, but I wouldn't want to jump to conclusions.
If you wanted to make him see that he is everything to you, meet up with him and say it face to face.
You can't force someone to take you back. You can't force someone on yourself. Unrequited love is excruitatingly painful, I've been there, going through it now but theres nothing you can do about it. You have to just accept that theres someone one day who does want to be with you just as much as you want to be with them.
But answering you question, you can't get someone back. Yet I recommend that you talk to him about it, face to face - not over the phone because he might hang up if he gets angry. He doesn't have any reason to get angry, he just might.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 July 2008):
 You cant force people to love you back or want to make a relationship work. You need to give him some space and let him see what he wants. The more you try the more you will push him away. Just wait awhile and if nothing happens then accept it is over. I wish you luck x
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