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writes: my partner is away overseas and i have recently had my hours cut at work.he gave me money for my birthday as i was having troubles paying bills. his mother now thinks that i am "sponging" off him. both myself and my partner are hurt over this comment and it is straining our relationship. what should i do?
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (6 January 2007):
 His Mom has to keep out of your private life with bf! Parents need to keep their thoughts to themselves when it comes to their kids' lives! She had no right talking to you the way she did....that was your bf's money, not hers, and he has every right to do with it as he pleases! Don't tell her anything so that she will come and make comments and try to rule the roost! Nothing is worse than a meddling parent to ruin a relationship!!
Don't let this strain your relationship! Your bf should have a talk with his mother, and let her know what's on his mind! Have him say to her that it's okay to talk, but not to make comments and not to judge!
Here is a much better New Year with your and your partner
Peace hope and lots of hugs!!
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reader, hemé'oono +, writes (5 January 2007):
 There really isn't anything you can do. It's up to your partner. He needs to confront his mother with the words that rhythmandblues said. My money mom, get over it. This is the person in my life right now and they need me. His mother sounds like one of those that doesn't want to cut the apron strings. If he doesn't confront her she is going to try to run his life forever. He has to choose his priorities. Is it you or is it her. As his partner, you can suggest that he confronts her but if he chooses not too then you need to let it go. You getting into his relationship with his mother is as bad as her getting into yours.
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Try and explain to her that you asked for money for your birthday instead of a present.
If she won't listen then just ignore it.
You and your partner know the truth so that's all that matters. Don't get upset about it or it will feel like it's more important than it is, it will blow over eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): Ignore it, you can't change someone else's opinion about you, and it would do no good to try to tell her otherwise, so just ignore it and go on, if you are both adults and it is his money, it is none of her business what he chooses to do with it whether it be roll it up in a cigar and smoke it, gamble, buy groceries or give some to you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Assuming your partner is an adult, you need to keep his and your business private and away from mom's prying eyes. It really isn't any of her affair. How did she find out he sent you money? What she doesn't know can't hurt her or in this case, you. Good luck.
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