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writes: I have been dating a man on and off for approx. 10yrs. The first time we broke up it was so he could move due to the fact that he missed his child who lived several states away. The second time we broke up because the ex he dumped shortly before we got back together showed up pregnant (8months she waited to tell him)he decided that he did not want to have another child that he he was a part time dad too, so he decided he need to marry this girl and try to make it work. As upset as I was, I being a single mom admired his dedication to his children. Then a couple of months ago (after 4yrs) he has tracked me down in another state (not the first time he has gone though great lengths to track me down), he is now divorced and wants to rekindle the relationship. We live several states apart. I believe that this is my soul mate, but at the same time i'm very confused. He believes that we belong together and has stated that he is willing to do what ever it takes and has even offered to move to me, which I have told him no, due to the fact he is really close with his children and would eventually resent being away from them (and i would be to blame)not a good footing to start with. I love this man but am i being a fool.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (6 January 2007):
 I got one thing to say....RUN!!!! He knows that he can come back to you when the going gets tough, and you will take him back! This time put your foot down and tell him that to move on to someone else...that you have had it with his coming together then breaking up again and again and again! You need to have someone in your life that is stable and will give you the love that you deserve! (and believe me dear, you do deserve it)
Just tell him no, and that you moved on!!
Hugs!!
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 To be honest I think he wants you when nothing else is on offer, you seem very sweet and maybe he takes advantage of your good nature because you make him feel good about himself. I would be very very wary of giving yourself to this man again.
I would say to him that you have moved on and are no longer interested in him, although maybe you can be friends?
I would move on and find a man who genuinely deserves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): Run like hell, get away from him for once and for all. It's a tangled web. He chose to go back with his ex when she told him she was pregnant. Noble indeed but that didn't help you. I think you would be best to put him out of your head forever. He looks on life as a bit of a game and you are the other player, sorry but i think you should go out and get someone else and not keep going back to him. Soulmates are just that! He doesn't sound like your soulmate at all.
Take care
xx
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