He flirts with other girls too, so what do I do from here?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

When i say i have bad luck when it comes to guys, "bad luck" doesn't even begin to cover it. I recently asked out this guy who i thought liked me to only to realize he thought of me as just a friend. but when i backed off he started flirting even more. it was like playing a game of cat and mouse. but we are still friends. now his coworker (they both work at a bar/bowling alley i frequent) is flirting with me a lot and i really do think he's cute and has a great personality but it's hard to say if he actually likes me or is interested in just sex. on new years he wanted me to come watch him bowl (i did for a little bit) but later on he was asking me if i would ever make out with him and to which i smiled and never answered. he REALLY wanted an answer it was kind of funny/cute. he held my hand a little and cuddled with me in the car on our way to a different bar. and we gave each other a quick kiss on the lips at the end of the night. i know he finds me attractive he's made it very blatently obvious and says so quite often. but i'm a little scared to give my heart out to someone who is just going to break it. he seems like he could only want sex with me. he does flirt with other girls and he always kisses ppl on the head goodbye or hello - he does it to me A LOT though. i'm just wondering what should i do? i've been playing it cool and a little mysterious and coy and hard to get. i never used to be into playing these ridiculous mind games but then again if i say what i want i usually end up in the friend zone anyway. now i must say at times our behavior towards one another is a bit sexual and i play along but at the end of the day i've never actually been asked out on a real date (even by past boyfriends) and i would like it. so to keep him interested (if he is interested in the first place) should i keep doing what i'm doing and should i wait for him to make a move? he doesn't text or call me ever. when we see each other its at this bar. i know its not much to go on but i usually end up screwing something up along the line so i'm trying to take a different approach. if he says i never answered his "makeout" question, what should i say? i've already said i'm not THAT kind of girl (even tho i really wouldn't mind making out haha). i wouldn't want him to think i'm a slut at all. i mean i've had a couple one-nighters in the past before i met him but i'm trying to be good this year haha. and to add.. i think it was maybe 4 months ago i saw him hit on this pretty blonde and he was holding her hand and stuff but that never worked out. now he's kinda treating me the same way by holding me hand and stuff. just don't know what to do from here...

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