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writes: My bf and I went out in december and the thing that really bugged me about him was the fact that he flirts with everybody. We broke up a month or so later but we got back together again in june. This time around things have been much better as we've talked about a lot of stuff and he's tried keeping his flirting at bay. He's always said 'it doesn't mean anything, i'm just a flirty person'. I posted about a week ago about a particular girl that he still flirts with all the time, and confronted him about it since. He just laughed it off, saying that that's just what they do, they don't see eachother in that way and niether of them mean anything by it. He made me feel like i was being stupid and petty.Today as i walked home from college i saw him in the park. He didn't see me. I watched him for a second from a distance. He hugged a girl who was obviously knew (fair enough) but then when i next looked he was sort of playfighting with her, picking her up and unnecessarily touching her. Now I feel really really horrible and i just wish he was dead. I know if i confront him again he'll just make me feel small. I'm i overreacting like he seems to think?
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reader, Yuna~  +, writes (20 September 2006):
 Funny enough, I was talking to my bf about what flirting mean last night. If you look it up on the dictionary, flirting actually defines as "playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest". My boyfriend was saying boys look at flirting differently than girls. I think about flirting as pretending to be single and hint to another girl he's available (might be sexually as well). My boyfriend thinks about it as playful behavior that have no harm. Althought we are both not the flirting type people, but we will still sometimes over-think when he hears me talking to the courier guy at work, or him talking to a good looking waitress. I'm never mad at him for doing such thing as he is not with me either. The thing that give us confident is the trust we are faithful to each other. If you explain what bothers you to your bf and he still does nothing about it, then he simpily don't care about your feeling. In a relationship, it's important to have trust, communication, consideration, understanding, willing to sacrifice. If you bf is not willing to consider your feelings, then he doesn't deserve you. (one more hint, when you confront him, be calm. Because whoever gets angry or yell first is usually the one at fault. ie. you: you're over-reacting, him: admit he was flirting too much with that girl. The rule to victory is remain calm at ALL time, because no one can see you're doing anything wrong.)
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reader, Cazzie Rox22 +, writes (20 September 2006):
 I don't think you are over reacting at all. All guys feel the need to flirt and even if it does mean nothing, you need to let him know that it is upseting you, because he is your boyfriend and yes sometimes it is very hard to keep it under control but you need to let him know.
If he says you are over reacting i would advide you say something like well i'm just worried because i like you so much and because you are such an amazing guy and (here i would put his very good points) and because of that i just worry that you are going to go off with someother guy.
Do and say what your heart tells you to do and trust your gut feeling!
I wish you the best of luck and i understand because i know a guy like that too.
Love Always
Caz
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