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writes:My boyfriend who also used to be my best friend is away with his family for the summer. as best friends we told eachother everything and in our relationship we still do. he told me he was going to a bonfire with his friends, and that he planned on flirting with girls there. earlier he had told me he was being bothered at work for flirting with a certain girl there, then he denied ever actually flirting. i dont mind if he flirts but i talk to him so little these days and what he says usually just depresses me, whether its about girls at his work, or girls on the beach. is he trying to hurt me? he says he loves me and doesnt care about anyone else, but i know he has had a tendency to stray. is he trying to warn me something may happen? or that he wants me to break it off with him? am i overreacting? none of my friends have boyfriends and know what to say so i would love some advice.
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reader, hugs2muchgal +, writes (10 August 2006):
hugs2muchgal is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey thanks for the advice, both are two different ideas and after what i just found out im leaning towards camille.
im even more pissed at him now because he told me he has a date tomorrow, and then he said he was kidding
he is just going out to hang out with the girl he supposedly did not flirt with who did like him, but supposedly doesnt anymore
i dont care if he hangs out with girls...
but all of a sudden im more jealous....
how can i tell him about why this bothers me when i hang out with guy friends too...
am i too hypocritical?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): It might be that he's insecure, and this is how he copes with it.
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reader, camille  +, writes (8 August 2006):
 Take these tales of flirting as a warning, whether intended as such. It is just not on. Flirting can be controlled so there's no excuse. When you love someone, you don't disrespect them by flirting and you certainly don't rub their nose in it. maybe as friend your relationship worked, but as a girlfriend you know so much that it's hard to trust him. I don't think there's such a thing as harmless flirting and if he can't see that it bothers you, he's better off as a friend. That said, your partner should also be your best friend, so he's not even respecting that!
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