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writes:Hey I was dating a guy all through out high school we broke up and he dated many other people. Now he is single and he found out I was in an intimate relationship with another guy. He became very upset and made me feel like i betrayed him. He began telling me that I was the right one for him and that I was the best thing that he ever had. However he only said this after he found out about my activities with this other guy. He is really upset now and I feel horrible. Why did this happen? It is so strange cause when we broke up he treated me very poorly and has not told me he loved me in years. Only now does he seem really hurt and I do not know what to do...I feel terrible. What is the deal with this?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 He is trying to win you back by making you feel guilty. This is manipulations. He wants to make you feel that he really loves you .
You are not responsible for his actions. He asked for it anyway. When he had you , he did not know how to appreciate and love you.
When the door closed on him , he tried to break it down.You will have to decide if you want him back or move on .
Let no man control your spirit or chain your spirit. Your spirit is only yours to do or say whatever you wish.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 February 2008):
 His feelings are his problem; don't make them yours! If you've moved on and are involved with someone else, don't let this cause a problem with you. If the two of you were not an item, you have not betrayed him. If you've moved on, and don't want to be with him even though you're not in a relationship at the moment, ignore him!Now, if you want to be with this guy who hasn't told you he's loved you for years, well, then, you can start to build a new relationship. But it sounds to me like he's a bit desperate.What do YOU want? If it's to be with this guy, then go for it. If it's not, just let him go...All the best.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Hi
You arent together anymore. Simple as that. The poor guy just doesnt like the fact you have moved on and been intimate with someone else apart from him. Thats his problem not yours remember. Dont keep shouldering the blame.
You havent done anything wrong.
C xxxxx
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reader, Ankoku +, writes (23 February 2008):
the best thing to do right now is ignore him. He hasn't had a relationship and you had. you moved on he hasn't, don't go back to the old relationship. Once it doesn't work it normally doesn't just start working again just because he's jealous over the fact that you got people loving you and he has none.
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