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*oanna77
writes:I have been with my partner for almost two year, really happy, believe he is the one for me. But unfortunately he doesn't know if he wants to get married or have children, and doesn't want to wast my time as he knows that is what I want. He ended the relationship saying he wants to be single and how the spark has gone, but wants us to be friends. I know he still has feelings for me as he still calls and wants to hang out. I really don't know what to do as i really want him back. Can anyone help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Take it from a guy who uses the same strategy he's messing you about. Right now you're his best choice but he wants to sew his noodles without the guilt but at the same time keep you under his control to fall back on when he's over himself or if he doesn't hook up with a finer chic. Don't let him play you change your number, email accounts, every way he knows how to reach you. Play him harder and for pass news.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 By caving to him, you're telling him your feelings aren't as important as his. You are important and should be allowed to feel whatever comes. Don't ever let someone make you feel guilty because their actions have a negative consequence. He was a jerk. He can't expect things not to change.
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reader, joanna77 +, writes (18 January 2011):
joanna77 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Dirtball,thank you for your reply, i think you may be right, as after spending so much time together following the break up, i suggested getting back together as it was always orkward saying goodnight. he said nothing had changed and he still wanted to be single. so i told him i need time and space to except its over as seeing him almost every other day was making me hopeful. he called me after only 5 days, i was so mad, i know this was the longest time we have gone with out talking since we met but i asked "why are you calling me when you don't want to be with me, you need to let me get over you. i know he felt bad as he was just checking to see if i was ok. "of-course i am not OK as i want to be with you" then he asked if he shouldn't call me know. i did say yes but felt really guilty and bad and texted him back to say he can call me but not now sometime in the future.
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reader, joanna77 +, writes (18 January 2011):
joanna77 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Dirtball,thank you for your reply, i think you may be right, as after spending so much time together following the break up, i suggested getting back together as it was always orkward saying goodnight. he said nothing had changed and he still wanted to be single. so i told him i need time and space to except its over as seeing him almost every other day was making me hopeful. he called me after only 5 days, i was so mad, i know this was the longest time we have gone with out talking since we met but i asked "why are you calling me when you don't want to be with me, you need to let me get over you. i know he felt bad as he was just checking to see if i was ok. "of-course i am not OK as i want to be with you" then he asked if he shouldn't call me know. i did say yes but felt really guilty and bad and texted him back to say he can call me but not now sometime in the future.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 January 2011):
This was his way of telling you he doesn't want those things with YOU, so you should move on.
Being friends with an ex doesn't work, especially when you still have feelings for him. You need to cut him out of your life so you can move on. It's very selfish of him to hurt you like that and expect things to go on like nothing happened. Tell him you cannot be friends with him and grieve for the dead relationship. Hopefully you find a guy who doesn't waste your time in the future.
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