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writes:I had asked a question recently here about my boyfriend (of 1 year and 2 months) ignoring me and what I should do with him. Well on Monday he broke up with me. It really hurt me and it's still hurting me! His reason was that he was having problems with his family and he didn't want to drag me into them. We had always told each other our problems, but I don't know what happened this time. I've cried so much for him since he left me. I guess he doesnt care about me. He acts like nothing has happened while I'm over here crying my eyes out. I just don't know what to do anymore. I know our relationship is over now and there's no point in crying for him. I thought we could work this out, but I don't want to talk to him. He won't even look at me in the eyes. I just can't stop liking him just like that. And I really miss him.So my question is does anyone have any ways for me to stop thinking and crying about this? How do I get over that what we had is done? I want to stop crying.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Your human it's an emotional event, I say cry your eyes out.
You'll find you can only cry so much before the body just can't do it anymore and there is a physical end to it.
The Psychological pain and sorrow will always be a choice.
How you will allow it to effect your day, week, month and life. Write it down, how long to grieve, when to grieve and what you will do daily in between that grieving.
We humans are most dedicated to the pursuit of happiness.
We are seldom taught how to handle pain until it happens.
You will need a Damage Control Plan and a Disaster Relief Plan.
You don't have to do it alone, there are books and books and websites and websites on it.
I am sorry for your loss and hope you will recuperate to your advantage.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 After a bad break up anger can be a healthier and more productive emotion then sadness and pain. So stop crying and start to let yourself feel the anger. Think about all the bad things he did to you, how often he made you feel sad and cry. How many times he ignored you.
How dare he treat you like that for no good reason? Scream at a pillow and pretend that it is him, tell him how bad he made you feel and all the ways he let you down then punch the heck out of it. And keep punching until all the pain and rage have drained out of you. Let go of the pain but hold onto the anger a little. Just enough to get you moving forward. You need to realize deep down to your core that you are a loving and beautiful person who deserves a lot better than that jerk. And tell yourself that you'll never settle for less than what you want and deserve again. EVER!
Then make a list of all the things you want in a guy.
EX: kind, loving, attentive, employed, good with kids and dogs, smart etc...
(I bet your ex didn't have half of the attributes you actually would like in a boyfriend) So next time sure the guy can live up to 95% of the items on your list before you give your heart away again. In fact don't even go out with him in the first place if he doesn't add up to a winner.
Good looks is an added plus but they don't mean anything without the rest to back them up.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (10 March 2011):
 let yourself cry for a week, and be sad. After that, pick yourself up and try to start feeling better. Don't allow yourself to wallow. yea, you're gonna be sad for a while, but the more proactive you are about feeling better, the quicker you will do just that.
I'm so sorry you're sad :( It gets better, I promise
Feel better and best of luck
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