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writes:HeySo ... my boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. He said "Things weren't going the way I wanted them to" ... well .. I wished he at least told me before that he is not happy with something ... but nothing. He was acting like nothing is going on .. all happy and stuff ... he went for a week vocation to Europe and everything was fine. He came back and snap ...he was wierd, but kept telling me it was just the trip and he is tired and such ... Bull ... 3 days after he broke up with me - from nowhere. We haven't spoken for about 2 weeks, but than we met up in coffee shop. We spoke like friends. we laughed and such ... Unfortunately ... I just found out .. I might be pregnant. Not sure how to tell him, not even sure if I want it. We had a wonderful relationship, but he wasn't ready for more serious steps and his family was against me because I am different nationality and religion. I am confused and don't know what to do, but I beleive he should know about it .. even tho, I don't want him back anymore and I don't want him to be there for US ... I think he has the right to know .. What do you guys think
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi
So I told him ...
His first respond - he absolutely freaked out and bagged me for abortion. I just said I don't know what am I going to do .. and left. Couple of hours later he said, he will take full responsibility for it, if I keep it ... and if not, he will pay for the whole process of abortion and go to the hospital with me ...
He said as much as he loves me, he would prefer to not keep this one, because he and I are not ready to have one .. but he will respect my decision if different from his.
We are not together .. but he said, he would like to get back together if I still want to .. I said I need time ... so we will see where is this going to take us
I honestly don't think I will keep this child, because my situation at this moment is not good .. and I don't think I want to bring this poor child into this world and have him with no father and mother that can barly take care of herself
thank you all for your help
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reader, Lavendre  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Honey let him know know, he has a right to even though you two are not seriously in love again its his baby and if you havent told him yet tell him tommorrow first thing. You have to remember that you didnt have sex with yourself and growing a child can be very hard for a single parent. If you are pregnant with a boy its even more serious as boys need their fathers. Tell him if he's telling you that you lying it simply means that the relationship wasnt going to last long anyways. But do a pregnancy test and let him see the results and if it takes a lawyer get him play his part. If i might say you might be surprised that he makes the news look like the happiest day of his life!!Let me know how it goes and feel free to email me privately or in the public. You can even add me as your mutual friend.Good Luck
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (7 September 2008):
 You are correct in your thinking that he should know. No matter the situation, he has the right to know and he will have the right to be involved with the child. It's big of you and the way a woman should think even though things didn't work out with you two. Tell him, to hell with his parents, there is a child possibly involved now. If you are POSITIVE you don't want the child, then that's something the two of you will have to discuss, but for starters do what you admit that you know is the right thing to do... tell him
Good luck and keep us updated
Michelle
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